My boyfriend and i have been going out for approximately nine months now.
In the past we talked about he fact that he has trust issues. A few nights ago, he spoke to me about he fact that he trust no one. No one. He said when I am around him, he trusts me completely. But
when I am not around, he over-analyses things (such as texts, why a fbook comment was deleted etc Nothing connected, or a particular situation, just plain old random things that don't have significance to me)
I was glad for his honesty, but i'll admit that I am upset. I am an honest and a trustworthy person, so I am a little upset.
He has told me it's not some childhood drama and his parents never brought him up that way, that it's simply close friends that he currently has who do lie frequently.
How can i help him get past these trust isuues? I have never had to deal with this problem in a relationship before, and I don't understand how a person "cannot trust anyone". Especially some you claim to love.
Comments would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
In the past we talked about he fact that he has trust issues. A few nights ago, he spoke to me about he fact that he trust no one. No one. He said when I am around him, he trusts me completely. But
when I am not around, he over-analyses things (such as texts, why a fbook comment was deleted etc Nothing connected, or a particular situation, just plain old random things that don't have significance to me)
I was glad for his honesty, but i'll admit that I am upset. I am an honest and a trustworthy person, so I am a little upset.
He has told me it's not some childhood drama and his parents never brought him up that way, that it's simply close friends that he currently has who do lie frequently.
How can i help him get past these trust isuues? I have never had to deal with this problem in a relationship before, and I don't understand how a person "cannot trust anyone". Especially some you claim to love.
Comments would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks