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<blockquote data-quote="liva" data-source="post: 3273278" data-attributes="member: 136806">Spanked in my view and the way I grew up was as a last resort. It wasn&#039;t some punishment for every little thing I did. If I did something wrong, my Father told me that it was wrong, explained why and then I didn&#039;t do it anymore. My parents divorced when I was 7 and I went through a lot with the 2 of them that I don&#039;t care to get into, but despite that... my Father still made it clear to me that he wasn&#039;t going to spank me for things he didn&#039;t see. He made it quite clear to my Mother that I was only to be spanked on the bottom, but warned her that if she hit me in the face, she would be hit in the face. The few times she smacked me my Father confronted her and though he never hit her, she did fear him and knew her limits with me. The rule my Father had was simple, don&#039;t hit your sister or your mother EVER or you will be spanked, there would be no questions about it. The last time I actually hit my sister I was 12 and I was spanked for it even then. However, my Father never hit me hard and never was abusive in any way. He always explained to me that he didn&#039;t want to spank me, but that if he didn&#039;t that reprocussions later in life would be much more severe. Pride has to be broken in a child, you cannot spank them out of anger either. My Father was and is a very emotional man and would cry everytime he had to spank me, but it didn&#039;t stop him because he knew that for his own children it was the right thing. I, unlike yourself never hated my Father. He was and is my best friend and i&#039;d do anything for him. I think some things work with kids. However, spanking needs to be used in severe cases because if your child does not suffer the embarrassment and sting of that, he will suffer getting beat up, arrested, or hurt some other way because of lack of respect for authority. That&#039;s how I was raised, my son will be raised in the very same way. Some don&#039;t agree, that&#039;s fine. I don&#039;t agree that timeouts are the answer in every case for everything.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="liva, post: 3273278, member: 136806"] Spanked in my view and the way I grew up was as a last resort. It wasn't some punishment for every little thing I did. If I did something wrong, my Father told me that it was wrong, explained why and then I didn't do it anymore. My parents divorced when I was 7 and I went through a lot with the 2 of them that I don't care to get into, but despite that... my Father still made it clear to me that he wasn't going to spank me for things he didn't see. He made it quite clear to my Mother that I was only to be spanked on the bottom, but warned her that if she hit me in the face, she would be hit in the face. The few times she smacked me my Father confronted her and though he never hit her, she did fear him and knew her limits with me. The rule my Father had was simple, don't hit your sister or your mother EVER or you will be spanked, there would be no questions about it. The last time I actually hit my sister I was 12 and I was spanked for it even then. However, my Father never hit me hard and never was abusive in any way. He always explained to me that he didn't want to spank me, but that if he didn't that reprocussions later in life would be much more severe. Pride has to be broken in a child, you cannot spank them out of anger either. My Father was and is a very emotional man and would cry everytime he had to spank me, but it didn't stop him because he knew that for his own children it was the right thing. I, unlike yourself never hated my Father. He was and is my best friend and i'd do anything for him. I think some things work with kids. However, spanking needs to be used in severe cases because if your child does not suffer the embarrassment and sting of that, he will suffer getting beat up, arrested, or hurt some other way because of lack of respect for authority. That's how I was raised, my son will be raised in the very same way. Some don't agree, that's fine. I don't agree that timeouts are the answer in every case for everything. [/QUOTE]

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