Am i a romantic lesbian or am i homo-romantic?

[Sapphire]

So, people say that a gay woman is a woman who: is romantically, emotionally and sexually attracted to only other woman, and this definition confuses me because ive always known that i liked girls and not boys in a romantic way. Ive always wanted to be in a relationship with another girl, i still do! and i know that im emotionally attracted to girlsad not boys because i always seem to get special connections with girls, like i truly understand how they feel and can tell what their thinking etc.

But its the sexual attraction that im stumped on. See, im DEFINATELY attracted to women and definately NOT men, i find them so hot! and beautiful, and just, well amazing!!! so its not that. its just, it seems like sex is EVERYTHING, well not everything, but is very influential to lesbians these days, and its really not for me.

The idea of casual sex, or sex buddies or anything like that just repulses me! but the idea of MAKING LOVE with another woman whos the love of my life/true love seems wonderful! (im a total virgin=havent kissed, dated or done anything remotely sexual with anyone (guy or girl) before), then again im only 17, but i can imagine what its like, and it seems wonderful! I think im also a little afraid of being sexual with anyone, which makes me doubt if i am really a lesbian or not. When i say afraid, i mean im worried about giving myself to someone that doesnt truly love me, im not afraid of the actual act itself.

So, considering im not interested in just having sex, but making love with my life partner, am i really a lesbian? or am i homo-romantic?

 

[Me]

You're a lesbian. Just because you're not interested in casual sex doesn't mean you're not.

Some people are into casual sex, others aren't. People are different.

 

[haiiii]

You're lesbian. I am the same way. I would date girl and have sex with one, however, I would have to be in a serious relationship with one first. Some people, like you and I, don't like to think of sex as just something you do. I think of sex as something that you do when you love your partner and consider it special. There are girls out there that want the same thing as you. Depending on your age, they probably are more interested in having fun right now. Look in a different area. Trust me, you'll find the right one who has the same thoughts as you.

 

[baseball]

Wow, you just totally freaked me out. This is the definition of me. Im a 17 year old girl, lesbian too. And havent kissed or done anything with anyone. Im so connected and in love with girls but i have no desire to do anything sexual with them. When this occurred to me, it really got me thinking and i still cant understand what this is. But after alot of thinking, i found that the thought of having sex with a girl didnt do anything for me. But when i thought of my crushes and how romantic i wish things were between us, the idea of sex was a great thing. And it wasnt the physical aspect of it but rather sharing and making love with someone that you have such intense feelings for that really made it more desirable.

As for what you want to label yourself as. When you think about it, all that matters is what you think of yourself. You dont have to go up to a girl and say hey im lesbian, or hey im homo romantic. All that matters is finding that special girl and just doing what makes you happy.

Its so weird having someone who's, the way i see it, exactly like me. Email me if you wanna chat more about this. And i hope i helped put things into a little more perspective for you.