At what point should you approach abuse, or leave it alone, when it has...

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sarahloveskris

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...nothing to do with you? My boyfriend's brother hit his gf and gave her a black eye. We all went out to dinner and I sat across from her looking at her black eye. I was upset just because it's never okay to hit anyone at all for any reason. I was upset because I didn't understand why she would even want to be with the jerk anymore. They fight all the time, it's just a mess.
I keep thinking about it, and I know I would be crossing the line to say anything to her about it. So what would you do? Would you say something to her about it? I'm not going to because I just feel like that would be interfering in her business and I don't want to do that, I just wonder what anyone else would do or say about it.
I forgot to mention that he is about 24years old and she is a little younger, maybe about 20 or 21, I'm not sure.. and they are living under the same roof at his parents house (since her parents kicked her out for staying with him. )
 
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princess_pinchie

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She may feel trapped, angry and embarassed about this. I would approach with caution. I would discreetly let her know I didn't think domestic violence was right and let her know that she could come talk to me in confidence about it. It takes many, many assaults before somebody leaves a violent relationship. I think she might just need a friend before she gets the courage to leave him. If the relationship is rocky already, she might finish with him anyway.
 
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