Boyfriend does not care that he makes offensive jokes?

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So I have been dating this guy for 2 months. We see each other about 3 times a week. He likes to make jokes a lot, and it's usually funny. Except the sex jokes are not very funny anymore (he and I have not had sex). He will make sex jokes like say "Im going to come in your face." and wiggle his tongue in a sexual way at me when we are at the beach.

Today I got really irritated at it. He could tell I was in a bad mood. I did not say anything to him at the time, but I did call him tonight and let him know it is offensive. I would not think I would have to deal with this, because he just turned 30 years old.
He said exactly what I thought he would say:
"It was just a joke."
Which is why I waited to say something, because I did not think he would care.

What should I say when he talks about sex again?
 
Explain to him that his jokes make you uncomfortable. Let him know (preferably in a nice way) that if he wants to be with you, he has to act more mature. When I was reading your question, the whole time I was thinking "ok, so you guys are 18-19, big deal", but if this man is 30 he should NOT be making such childish jokes all the time.

Let him know that you like his jokes, but ask that he stop with the sexual ones - at least around you. If he cares for you, he will respect that.
 
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