VenusianTaurus
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My boyfriend smokes when under stress. So there are days when he fags 3-4 cigs while on others he finishes off the whole pack. When we started dating, I told him I have serious issues with his smoking habit. He says he wants to quit smoking for me, something I really don't want him to do for 2 reasons:
1) I think it will only be successful if he understands the benefit it will do to him personally.
2) I don't want him to change because of me since I think it may breed some discontent in him later on.
He has, however, also told me in clear terms these 2 things:
1) That he understands it is good for his health, mine and the rest of the family's.
2) That he understands I may not trust him about this immediately but he will do it. He says he has quit smoking permanently and is even avoiding being around people who do. (He had once been clean for 6 months and picked it up again).
He has been clean for 4 weeks now. We are not in the same city but I do trust him when he says he has been clean.
We are at that stage in our relationship where we genuinely like each other and would definitely consider marriage once we get to that point. I may be being selfish in thinking like this but I really don't want to constantly worry that my husband's health, the effect it would have on my health and that of my children.
I know he is trying to quit and I am giving him every support in this. I understand it's an addiction and it would be difficult to get rid of. I am very fond of him and think he would make a good husband but this is such a deal breaker for me
Is there anybody here who has had/is having a similar experience with their partner?
Thanks in advance for any help
1) I think it will only be successful if he understands the benefit it will do to him personally.
2) I don't want him to change because of me since I think it may breed some discontent in him later on.
He has, however, also told me in clear terms these 2 things:
1) That he understands it is good for his health, mine and the rest of the family's.
2) That he understands I may not trust him about this immediately but he will do it. He says he has quit smoking permanently and is even avoiding being around people who do. (He had once been clean for 6 months and picked it up again).
He has been clean for 4 weeks now. We are not in the same city but I do trust him when he says he has been clean.
We are at that stage in our relationship where we genuinely like each other and would definitely consider marriage once we get to that point. I may be being selfish in thinking like this but I really don't want to constantly worry that my husband's health, the effect it would have on my health and that of my children.
I know he is trying to quit and I am giving him every support in this. I understand it's an addiction and it would be difficult to get rid of. I am very fond of him and think he would make a good husband but this is such a deal breaker for me
Is there anybody here who has had/is having a similar experience with their partner?
Thanks in advance for any help