robinebanks
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my boyfriend of three years recently moved out, and last night i had a new friend sleep over. he woke me up early this morning from a really horrible nightmare because he could hear me breathing fast and making noises. he said first he heard me breathing funny, so he put his hand on my back, and then i started making scared noises so he woke me up.
i realized that the whole three years my ex and i were together, this never happened. i frequently had bad dreams, but never so bad that i made any noise or that he had to wake me up. but with the previous boyfriend before him, it was a common occurrence. he often woke me up from nightmares because he could hear that i must be having a bad dream.
what could be the difference? is it because the current guy (and the old ex) would touch me while i was asleep, somehow making the dream even scarier? if i'm having a nightmare and i feel hands on me, i can see how that might make the dream suddenly scarier... i might feel like someone grabbed me or was trying to attack me in my dream.
is that what happened? can trying to wake someone up from a nightmare scare them even more?
i realized that the whole three years my ex and i were together, this never happened. i frequently had bad dreams, but never so bad that i made any noise or that he had to wake me up. but with the previous boyfriend before him, it was a common occurrence. he often woke me up from nightmares because he could hear that i must be having a bad dream.
what could be the difference? is it because the current guy (and the old ex) would touch me while i was asleep, somehow making the dream even scarier? if i'm having a nightmare and i feel hands on me, i can see how that might make the dream suddenly scarier... i might feel like someone grabbed me or was trying to attack me in my dream.
is that what happened? can trying to wake someone up from a nightmare scare them even more?