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<blockquote data-quote="montana" data-source="post: 1445298" data-attributes="member: 443725">Okay so I don&#039;t like labels, but I&#039;ve been with and have had feelings for people of both genders. I don&#039;t keep it secret, but I don&#039;t tell anyone either or say &quot;I&#039;m bisexual&quot;. Is it dishonest not to disclose to partners in the future that I have been with both? It&#039;s just I don&#039;t want a guy to think 1) that he can get a threesome cuz he can&#039;t or 2) that I will leave him for a girl.It sucks cuz lesbians think you&#039;re not gay enough and are just experimenting and straight guys think you&#039;ll go back to women.I&#039;m not ashamed of who I am. I don&#039;t talk about specifics of my past that much to anyone of any orientation (or regular friends) for that matter. I just want to be who I am and do what I want but I would never want to be dishonest to someone I care about in the future.Anyone have experience with this? How do you explain it to partners, particularly to the boys? What reactions have you faced?I should also add that I worry about letting the person know and then that defining me forever, to friends, family, etc.It&#039;s easier to tell girls though because guys expect a girl to just like guys just because it&#039;s the norm....What about with people who aren&#039;t yet in serious or potentially serious relationship territory?For example, I was talking to a straight guy and he asked about when my last relationship was. I brought up the conversation but it was hard to answer his question without putting it all out there. He was just a friend-type-person so I wasn&#039;t going to say &quot;Yeah I slept with her a year ago&quot; but I don&#039;t want to be evasive.Sigh..</blockquote>

[QUOTE="montana, post: 1445298, member: 443725"] Okay so I don't like labels, but I've been with and have had feelings for people of both genders. I don't keep it secret, but I don't tell anyone either or say "I'm bisexual". Is it dishonest not to disclose to partners in the future that I have been with both? It's just I don't want a guy to think 1) that he can get a threesome cuz he can't or 2) that I will leave him for a girl. It sucks cuz lesbians think you're not gay enough and are just experimenting and straight guys think you'll go back to women. I'm not ashamed of who I am. I don't talk about specifics of my past that much to anyone of any orientation (or regular friends) for that matter. I just want to be who I am and do what I want but I would never want to be dishonest to someone I care about in the future. Anyone have experience with this? How do you explain it to partners, particularly to the boys? What reactions have you faced? I should also add that I worry about letting the person know and then that defining me forever, to friends, family, etc. It's easier to tell girls though because guys expect a girl to just like guys just because it's the norm.... What about with people who aren't yet in serious or potentially serious relationship territory? For example, I was talking to a straight guy and he asked about when my last relationship was. I brought up the conversation but it was hard to answer his question without putting it all out there. He was just a friend-type-person so I wasn't going to say "Yeah I slept with her a year ago" but I don't want to be evasive. Sigh.. [/QUOTE]

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