Do I seem lesbian/bi or is this just a phase?

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Imaginary

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I was raised in an extremely conservative Christian household, so I was taught to believe that homosexuality was disgusting and wrong. As I've gotten older, however, I've realized how ignorant that viewpoint is and, reflecting on my own life, come to the conclusion that I might actually be a lesbian or bisexual myself.
The facts:
-I'm 15.
-I despise dresses/skirts/heels and I don't wear makeup, but I do care about my appearance...
-I like men's clothes--baggy jeans, loose buttondown shirts over t-shirts, ties, etc.--but I never buy clothes like that (My mom thinks I should be more "girly" as it is, she definitely wouldn't approve).
-I'm disgusted by the thought of having sex with a boy, but I've had shortlived "crushes" on them before based mainly on facial features/appealing personalities.
-I never realized it before (Since I've never considered the possibility of being anything but straight), but I've also had crushes on girls that had more to do with a desire for an actual relationship than the ones I've had on guys--I always settled for close friendship, but still wanted to be near them/find out more about them/make them happy more than is probably normal for "just friends."
-I've kissed guys a few times, but I didn't initiate the kisses/particularly enjoy them.
-I've never kissed a girl, so I don't know how enjoyable that would be compared to kissing a guy...
-I've had "those types" of dreams about girls recently, but never boys.
-I can see myself having a real relationship and future with a woman--living together, getting married, having children, etc.--and I've never been able to picture that well with a man even though that's what society's norm is.
 
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Ricardo

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At 15 people don't really know what is happening to them, their hormones are running wild...young people of today try all types of sex without too much fuss and think nothing of it...try by all means, but from what you have described, it doesn't say you're gay or bi, your just growing up and setting your style...
 
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Tellin'UDaTrutht

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At 15 your hormones are still adjusting. You might be overthinking things. Just because sometimes you don't like a kiss with a guy doesn't mean you wanna switch to the other team. You are still adjusting with puberty and all the rest your age group has to survive. Whatever or whoever you are will become evident soon enough. Enjoy your youth, don't hurry to grow older (it's overrated). It sounds to me that you are going through a very normal phase.
 
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Justin

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My family is the exact same way, and im going threw the exact same thing (except i'm a guy and 19) I have had relationships with girls before, but it was mostly to try to get other feelings toward guys out of my head(never worked), i think that you are at least Bi-sexual. In the case that you are, live the life you want, and don;t let others get you down. (i havn't follow my own advice cause im afraid of what my family will think but im going to soon lol)
 
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