Okay, so I started dating this guy over the summer and I had just met him and he really liked me but wasn't ready for a relationship because he was still not over his first love. Eventually, his ex permanently ended things and all hope between them so he focused all his energy on casually dating me--he's a very nice guy type, and he did give me so much attention--met my parents, talked to me every night since we're LD, indulged personal information, etc..
But.. I knew he wasn't ever going to ask me to be his gf (because he met me at a time where he wasn't serious and you us ually can't change first impressions like that) so I broke up with him. I then found out when I did that he had been hanging out (purely innocent friends) with another girl for a few days who wanted to date him and he liked her too.. and he said he had been holding off b/c "it just didn't feel right with what we had going" I still said that was fine and a week later he is in an official relationship with this girl. I had to break things off with him, he was dating other girls and therefore talking to me less and less and I felt like him leaving me for the other girl would have been inevitable. Now, I imed him saying I was shocked and a little hurt and he said i am actually shocked everything worked out this way myself. i have known her since my freshman year " idk if he's shocked just b/c he never thought they'd date or that he's so happy? I mean, I realize that I got him over his ex and that the fact that he's known her for almost 4 years automatically would make it seem like it would be okay to be serious with her. I know, we're not together and I should move on.. but I'm just wondering what others think. She also seems really into him, writing how she can't wait to see him (before they even started dating, and liking their relationship status on fb). It's just, he was willing to stay with me over her.. it just seems to me like yes he's happy but not like reallyy into her or anything.
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Well, he never even let me know the girl existed until after I broke up with him. And personally, although I know it doesn't matter at this point, he's dumb for not wanting something serious with me--I'm beautiful, someone he really trusts, someone with similar goals/personality, someone who always makes him happy. I feel like he never saw me as "serious" b/c he met me when he was still pursuing his ex, didn't know me, met me at a party, and I let him date me w/out comittment.
But.. I knew he wasn't ever going to ask me to be his gf (because he met me at a time where he wasn't serious and you us ually can't change first impressions like that) so I broke up with him. I then found out when I did that he had been hanging out (purely innocent friends) with another girl for a few days who wanted to date him and he liked her too.. and he said he had been holding off b/c "it just didn't feel right with what we had going" I still said that was fine and a week later he is in an official relationship with this girl. I had to break things off with him, he was dating other girls and therefore talking to me less and less and I felt like him leaving me for the other girl would have been inevitable. Now, I imed him saying I was shocked and a little hurt and he said i am actually shocked everything worked out this way myself. i have known her since my freshman year " idk if he's shocked just b/c he never thought they'd date or that he's so happy? I mean, I realize that I got him over his ex and that the fact that he's known her for almost 4 years automatically would make it seem like it would be okay to be serious with her. I know, we're not together and I should move on.. but I'm just wondering what others think. She also seems really into him, writing how she can't wait to see him (before they even started dating, and liking their relationship status on fb). It's just, he was willing to stay with me over her.. it just seems to me like yes he's happy but not like reallyy into her or anything.
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Well, he never even let me know the girl existed until after I broke up with him. And personally, although I know it doesn't matter at this point, he's dumb for not wanting something serious with me--I'm beautiful, someone he really trusts, someone with similar goals/personality, someone who always makes him happy. I feel like he never saw me as "serious" b/c he met me when he was still pursuing his ex, didn't know me, met me at a party, and I let him date me w/out comittment.