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<blockquote data-quote="BlueberryHead1" data-source="post: 2048858" data-attributes="member: 736522">guarantee regardless of the situation? I&#039;m miserable because my ex and I broke up after going out for 2.5 years. I&#039;m miserable because even though I didn&#039;t know if it would be a good idea or not, I had rebound sex with a couple of guy friends because they were cute and shy and I wanted to, but now I feel a little weird about it because they contact me a lot, and I want them to, but then I think it&#039;s probably just for more sex, and if they don&#039;t contact me as much I feel bad. Basically it seems I&#039;m doomed to feel bad, I feel bad when alone, I feel bad when getting guys, in a relationship I felt okay but there was a constant feeling of dread/insecurity hanging over me because I knew we&#039;d have to break up eventually.Am I doomed to be in a perpetual state of sadness?I try lightening up and not taking it seriously, but it doesn&#039;t work! One of my friends I thought was like that but as I&#039;ve gotten to know her better, she&#039;s just as messed up, incompetent and depressed as me regarding both her break ups and her more casual things. As of May this year she&#039;d only slept with one guy she&#039;d been with for ages; they broke up she&#039;s now slept with at least 11 guys and also has herpes.Another one of my friends is 22 and has never dated, kissed or anything, she is incredibly miserable and depressed about never having had a boyfriend and it is a major part of her life that really upsets her.My mother got married at 21 and they stayed married for 30 years but she recently got divorced very messily so while she spent her youth being happy and stable, it&#039;s all come back to hurt her in a big way now.So it seems to me whatever choice you make regarding relationships, you get hurt?Any way to lighten up and just be happy with what I can get and not stress out about wanting more?</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BlueberryHead1, post: 2048858, member: 736522"] guarantee regardless of the situation? I'm miserable because my ex and I broke up after going out for 2.5 years. I'm miserable because even though I didn't know if it would be a good idea or not, I had rebound sex with a couple of guy friends because they were cute and shy and I wanted to, but now I feel a little weird about it because they contact me a lot, and I want them to, but then I think it's probably just for more sex, and if they don't contact me as much I feel bad. Basically it seems I'm doomed to feel bad, I feel bad when alone, I feel bad when getting guys, in a relationship I felt okay but there was a constant feeling of dread/insecurity hanging over me because I knew we'd have to break up eventually. Am I doomed to be in a perpetual state of sadness? I try lightening up and not taking it seriously, but it doesn't work! One of my friends I thought was like that but as I've gotten to know her better, she's just as messed up, incompetent and depressed as me regarding both her break ups and her more casual things. As of May this year she'd only slept with one guy she'd been with for ages; they broke up she's now slept with at least 11 guys and also has herpes. Another one of my friends is 22 and has never dated, kissed or anything, she is incredibly miserable and depressed about never having had a boyfriend and it is a major part of her life that really upsets her. My mother got married at 21 and they stayed married for 30 years but she recently got divorced very messily so while she spent her youth being happy and stable, it's all come back to hurt her in a big way now. So it seems to me whatever choice you make regarding relationships, you get hurt? Any way to lighten up and just be happy with what I can get and not stress out about wanting more? [/QUOTE]

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