Does it mean Im backwards & old fashioned if I want a man to look after me?

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CamM

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I havent exactly had a sheltered life - I have been hit as a kid, moved out young, done lots of stupid things and had to live on my own for a few years while I was single. Had to do a lot of stuff like go home at 3am through streets that are full of crime etc (Im not exaggerating my flatmate in my old house got held up at knife point on the next street twice in 2 months).

I like the feeling of being taken care of and protected (as much as Ive denied it and tried to be 'tough').

I have a degree and im scared of being dependent on a guy although at the same time I kind of want to be.

Am i backwards?
 
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mary127

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I think its in a womans nature to want a man to protect her. Men are bigger and stronger.. they should take care of us! I like to feel protected and taken care of and in other ways I feel that I protect my boyfriend and take care of him. Im anything but old fashioned or backwards.I wouldnt want to have to stick up for my man in a fight lol
 
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LadyJutee

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Not backwards; maybe looking for a father figure or wanting to run from responsibility. Protection yes and no, he's not superman fighting off all the bad guys nor does he take away the burdens of life. Try to look at men as human beings a friend/lover etc. and not as a savior.
 
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layla

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You know this is something that really worries me; the fact the feminism has caused you; that is women, of today, to have self doubt in themselves; there is nothing wrong with a woman, who wants to be taken care of; however, the stigma of today says that it is.

Having a man take care of you doesn't mean that you can't depend on yourself; actually, you took care of that problem when you got your degree; for me, the first thing I did, when I graduated, was opened up the paper, read the "Wants Ads" found a position, applied and got my first job; after that I quit, went to tech college; however, being impatient I quit and went back to work.

What you need to do, is to look deep within yourself; in the case you find this is what you, really, want to do, do it. Just like you I expressed initiative.

Our actions mean that we can rely on ourselves; we have an attitude of not being dependent; though at a particular time in our lives we are.

In short it does not mean you are backwards; unless, you are convinced you are.
 
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TheMasculinistm

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Being looked after is one thing. Being cosseted is another.
If you are prepared to look after your partner just as much, and put as much into the relationship and are not looking for a meal ticket.
Then no.
 
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