Doesn't it upset you when women that are your supposedly your friends complain?

[lzpa77]

about being pregnant when you are ttc? I would love to have some of the things that they are going through, weight gain, kicks, hell, even the sickness. Just as long as i know that a baby that my husband and i have been trying for, is on its way.
I have two coworkers, 1 is 7 months pregnant and she came into work the other day almost crying that she was at the docs and gained more weight and the other is 4 months pregnant and the other day at lunch time, i went to grab a piece of her celery and she snapped at me saying,"I'm eating for two, you're not"! That hurt bad because last month i thought i was pregnant, and it turns out i wasn't. It's like she's rubbing it in. Am i crazy for feeling this way??

 

[peds_nurse]

My best friend is pregnant and all she keeps talking about is that she can't wait to get this baby out so she can go have a beer! I also got a forward on mothers day from a co worker that said "happy non-mothers day...send this to all your girlfriends who have managed to make it another year without getting pregnant...yay!" How insensitive, she knows we are trying. I just think people have no clue until they have been there. Its such a helpless feeling. Hang in there, we will have out turn. Good luck!!

 

[TTC#1for18months]

Oh honey! I exactly understand what you are saying.
Those who manage to get pregnant easily dont even understand what women like us go through. And it can be pretty difficult to spend time with such women.
I too think exactly the way you do....that I would love to go through what these women are going through...just that I want to get pregnant.
Do they know you are ttc? I wouldnt want to share what I'm going through with others unless they are my close friends, but in a way, it would help.
My best friend got pregnant on her first try this Jan and she is already in her 5th month of pregnancy. It hurts whenever she talks because she says things such as "I saw my baby's lil feet on the U/S". It aches my heart u know!
Anyways, all that we can do is ignore what they say/think. I think even pregnant women have their own worries abt eating, abt maintaining weight etc...etc.....they dont even have time to think abt us! So just let them be!

 

[twink]

Sweety stop worrying about them, it only upsets you and this can throw your cycles out. Just relax and let nature take it's course, before you know it you'll be bringing your little bundle of joy home. No your not crazy for feeling this way but it's not helping you at all. good luck

 

[Meagansmommy]

I think sometimes when we're TTC we take things personnel even though they weren't meant to be taken that way. My husband and I tried for 4 1/2 years and went through 5 miscarriages before I had my daughter. During this time all my friends were getting pregnant and having babies(some actually got pregnant 2 or 3 times during this period) I know when I would say something about having so much work to do around this house or something and they would say "At least you don't have kids to deal with too" I would get all pissed off and take it as them rubbing the fact that they have kids in my face...but looking back I think they're just being honest and not really thinking "Hey she can't have kids lets brag about it!!!" Now that we're TTC #2 and having no luck again it seems like again everyone is pregnant or just had a baby. Now instead of "At least you don't have kids" now it's "At least you only have 1 to deal with"...