Louloubella
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Firstly, I love my fiance more than anything! All I want is for this relationship to be perfect.
So... a week ago my fiance had a big arguement with his family via the telephone. It had been building up for over a week after a pretty much disasterous birthday/engagement party I organised for him. Basically I couldn't get any of his family to commit to a time and a place, noone was around at the same time so the day before this meal was happening I booked a table for when the majority could make it and then lead the party back to ours when people could come and go when they were around. I good solution I thought.
Anyway after this argument with his mother my fiance has changed. His attitude towards me is completely different. In the last week we've fought more than we ever have before. Nasty arguements too, which we've never had before. And every time we argue he brings up something new he doesn't like about me. Something that has never been mentioned in the last 2 years of us dating and I feel that his parents are putting thoughts into his head. Overhearing some of the arguement (not eavesdropping, he was shouting!) I know that I was mentioned many times but he keeps denying this.
I don't know what to do. I love him so much but I'm sick of worrying that everything I do could backfire and we'll have another arguement. I am sick of him being controlled by his parents. I know mothers are protective of their sons but she's saying things to him that make him resent me. An example of this was yesterday.
When we first started dating it was long distance, I was in the UK he was teaching in Portugal in an amazing school which he loved. After 6 months of us dating he decided he was moving back to the UK. I had no say in this decision. Obviously I was thrilled but I never forced him to move. I never said anything about it. He made the decision on his own. 2 years down the line and in a particularly nasty arguement yesterday he has a go at me for making him quit his "dream job" (his words). I knew 2 years ago his parents weren't happy about him moving back and I think they have 'put words in his head' as it has never been mentioned before.
I don't know what to do. We've just got engaged, it's meant to be the happiest time of our lives yet since announcing the engagement it's been a struggle.
So... a week ago my fiance had a big arguement with his family via the telephone. It had been building up for over a week after a pretty much disasterous birthday/engagement party I organised for him. Basically I couldn't get any of his family to commit to a time and a place, noone was around at the same time so the day before this meal was happening I booked a table for when the majority could make it and then lead the party back to ours when people could come and go when they were around. I good solution I thought.
Anyway after this argument with his mother my fiance has changed. His attitude towards me is completely different. In the last week we've fought more than we ever have before. Nasty arguements too, which we've never had before. And every time we argue he brings up something new he doesn't like about me. Something that has never been mentioned in the last 2 years of us dating and I feel that his parents are putting thoughts into his head. Overhearing some of the arguement (not eavesdropping, he was shouting!) I know that I was mentioned many times but he keeps denying this.
I don't know what to do. I love him so much but I'm sick of worrying that everything I do could backfire and we'll have another arguement. I am sick of him being controlled by his parents. I know mothers are protective of their sons but she's saying things to him that make him resent me. An example of this was yesterday.
When we first started dating it was long distance, I was in the UK he was teaching in Portugal in an amazing school which he loved. After 6 months of us dating he decided he was moving back to the UK. I had no say in this decision. Obviously I was thrilled but I never forced him to move. I never said anything about it. He made the decision on his own. 2 years down the line and in a particularly nasty arguement yesterday he has a go at me for making him quit his "dream job" (his words). I knew 2 years ago his parents weren't happy about him moving back and I think they have 'put words in his head' as it has never been mentioned before.
I don't know what to do. We've just got engaged, it's meant to be the happiest time of our lives yet since announcing the engagement it's been a struggle.