Friend is always "borrowing" my cigarettes?

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Both me and one of my best friends smoke. I'm sure you know that cigarettes are fairly expensive and as we're students, we don't have a lot of money.
My friend barely ever buys her own cigarettes. She asks me to borrow one, but then never buys any of her own to be able to give me one back. If I smoke around her, she hints that she wants one. If I ignore the hint, she asks me outright then gets moody if I refuse (but if I mention it, she pretends its for another reason).

I don't want to not smoke around her because I'm with her a lot, but it annoys me when she always borrows cigarettes and never gives them back. I feel bad for not lending her them, but I know I won't get anything back. How can I deal with this?

PS. I know smoking is a bad habit, I am aware of all the risks and have cut down significantly in the last few weeks. I intend to quit but this is still an ongoing problem.
 
Maybe you could just simply show her this question here on Yahoo!Answers, she'll get the hint right away and you needn't face up to any kind of confrontational situation. If she does get funny about it, then as one previous answerer has already stated, she is not a worthy friend.
 
Personally, it it were me, after this amount of time the next time she asks i'd just say 'well, not being funny but not really because, as much as you know I wouldn't normally mind, you know i've not got a lot of money and you keep asking. it wouldn't be a problem if you gave me some back in return but you never do and it's expensive for to have to be basically paying for your cigarettes' something like that? she can hardly argue, she must realise it's not exactly polite or acceptble behaviour and if she brings out the whole 'well I haven't got a lot of money' just be like 'what, and you think I have?' x
 
Hahahah... i used to know people like this. Youre not her mother... you dont have to feed her habit. Its her choice if she smokes.. so she should buy her own. I understand the occasional giving of a cigarette, because its nice. But it sounds like youre constantly giving her your cigarettes. I woul just refuse from now on and say "until you pay me back.. i dont want to lend you anymore because i dont have an endless supply of money" if she gets funny cause you wont give her a bloody cigarette shes not a true friend :)
 
Tell her about it. If she's your best friend, she will understand. Either that, or charge her 50 cents for each one. Tell her that you're having trouble supporting her habit.
 
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