chelsealiz15
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- Sep 14, 2009
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Let me start by saying I love my mother-in-law. She likes me too, so there is no issue with that. However, me and my fiance are planning a July 2013 wedding and she suddenly makes snide remarks to him and finds something wrong with everything we mention we might want to do. We want to be married on a Thursday and she said "no one will come to your wedding on a Thursday." We want to be married outside and she keeps mentioning the weather could be bad and we should reconsider. Our venue we are excited about is an outside amphitheater, and instead of saying "oh that's great" or "that's really pretty" it turns into not only the weather thing but also now "oh it looks like your (my fiance's) grandparents can't come now." Just because there are STAIRS. Like what. the. heck.
My fiance does not want his younger brother as his best man, but wants him in the wedding. So of course she freaks about that. He has stood up to her and said that she already had her wedding 26 years ago and now this is his wedding, not hers. He said this without me even asking to, and I am glad he is on my side with this. However, her reply was "Well then why don't you guys just elope then?"
Really? Is that so appropriate to say because I don't think so! I don't know what her problem is. She told my fiance she is just worried about us and thinks we are not ready for the "real world," which is ridiculous. He told her there is a difference between worrying and being controlling, which led to the eloping comment. I'm so sick of this but I WILL NOT elope, I refuse. I want a ceremony, I want to plan, and my mother eloped so I want her to have that experience with me because I know MY mom won't control the whole damn thing! Why can't she just let us be happy? I guess I don't understand. We have gotten along the whole 4 years I have been with my fiance, and now suddenly every minute detail of a day that isn't hers is the end of world. Advice?
**On a side note: I am already very stressed and this is so not helping. I am graduating college next month, and I am dealing with legal issues because my father passed away without a will in the fall and I am handling his estate. If I can resolve this issue at least my life would be easier!!!!
My fiance does not want his younger brother as his best man, but wants him in the wedding. So of course she freaks about that. He has stood up to her and said that she already had her wedding 26 years ago and now this is his wedding, not hers. He said this without me even asking to, and I am glad he is on my side with this. However, her reply was "Well then why don't you guys just elope then?"
Really? Is that so appropriate to say because I don't think so! I don't know what her problem is. She told my fiance she is just worried about us and thinks we are not ready for the "real world," which is ridiculous. He told her there is a difference between worrying and being controlling, which led to the eloping comment. I'm so sick of this but I WILL NOT elope, I refuse. I want a ceremony, I want to plan, and my mother eloped so I want her to have that experience with me because I know MY mom won't control the whole damn thing! Why can't she just let us be happy? I guess I don't understand. We have gotten along the whole 4 years I have been with my fiance, and now suddenly every minute detail of a day that isn't hers is the end of world. Advice?
**On a side note: I am already very stressed and this is so not helping. I am graduating college next month, and I am dealing with legal issues because my father passed away without a will in the fall and I am handling his estate. If I can resolve this issue at least my life would be easier!!!!