Has my relationship lost interest?

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Elizabeth

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In August my boyfriend of two years cheated on me. It wasn't the first time..but this time was the worst. Because everything was going so well in our relationship, I just didn't understand.

I took him back. Ever since nothing has been the same with me. At first, I never wanted to talk to him, I hated him, I felt so forced to be with him. & him, he always wanted to be with me, talk to me, etc. and I hated it and it drove me crazy.


Now I'm to the point where I'm over what happened and I let it go, but I still have nothing to say to him. I feel like it's my fault, because at night I rather "go to sleep" than talk to him, I don't enjoy sex with him and I don't even get turned on by him.

But I know I still love him.. so that is where I am confused. It's driving me crazy, I'm stressed out about it, my head hurts.

I feel like this is my fault and I feel guilty for thinking and doing these things. Did I ruin the relationship by "not trying" as he says when we argue about this or did he ruin it? Every time I bring it up he says "I'm not cheating on you anymore, so if you wanna leave just do it."
 
So basically after the break up things are not like before between both of you. He claims to love you but you don;t enjoy his company any longer albeit you think you love him right? First , are you 100% sure he loves you? Love isn't in the verbal talks , it's in the eyes and in the care so if you see love in his eyes then you need to love him back honestly. If the past is haunting you then you need to make peace with it by talking about your guilts and hurts to your boyfriend. If he again says what you have quoted above then you may tell him that you guys need to stay away from each other for some time in order to allow love to propel back in your lives.Let time take the ride this time.Let time decide the future of your relationship.Give each other the needed space.
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