then a friend? Recently I started having a crush on my best female friend. The reason I didn't ask her out sooner was she was in a relationship and I was chasing after another girl. Well things fell through with the other girl and her boyfriend dumped her. She was still hurting for awhile so I didn't make a move. Well, the other day I told her how I feel and she said she saw me as a big brother to her. I was okay with that, because I'd rather not lose her friendship but I had to let my feelings out. We are still friends possibly even better friends. However, she is crushing on this guy that is a total dirt bag. She told me she doesn't go for guys like him so I don't get it. He gets high, gets drunk, doesn't have a job, forgot to pay for his college courses, dresses like a bum, sells his stuff for drugs and doesn't care at all about her feelings. She even told me "Joe he's starting to creep me out I know I'm gonna get hurt by him" but keeps on still crushing for him. I don't get it, but it has hurt my confidence big time because she told a friend who told me that "she didn't find me attractive". I mean I am ok with her seeing me as a brother but it hurts like hell that she is going for this loser.