My BF and I have been together for 4 years about (lived together for 3). He is 38 and I am 28. When I met him and he was 33 he didn't seem that old, but now he is almost 40... ?
We get along great, he is my best friend, all my friends love him and think he is great. We never fight, he never has called me a name. He is really sweet and caring, I trust him 99% (not capable of more with anyone), we evenly split housework. He would be a better parent than I would IMO.
Now here's the deal, we almost never have sex anymore. Maybe once or twice in the last year. I haven't gained weight or anything, if anything I've got in better shape and work out 4 times a week minimum. I don't make any efforts to have sex really and neither does he. We sleep in separate rooms because he snores. If he tried to have sex with me I would do it, but he doesn't try and I'm not into being the one pushing for it. I'm not attracted to him all that much anymore, but to tell the truth I'm not easily attracted to people. We talked about it a couple times recently and he said we were just busy. He is not cheating on me, that I'm pretty certain of. From day one I never was "in love" with him, but I do love him.
We are talking about taking it to the next level, buying a house and getting married. Should I do this? Up until a year ago when the sex thing got so bad I thought he was the one, but now I'm thinking I cant forego a sex life entirely at my young age. Sometimes we seem more like friends and roommates than a couple, but there is still a lot of affection (kissing, hugging, I love you's.) What should I do?? This is really getting to me
We get along great, he is my best friend, all my friends love him and think he is great. We never fight, he never has called me a name. He is really sweet and caring, I trust him 99% (not capable of more with anyone), we evenly split housework. He would be a better parent than I would IMO.
Now here's the deal, we almost never have sex anymore. Maybe once or twice in the last year. I haven't gained weight or anything, if anything I've got in better shape and work out 4 times a week minimum. I don't make any efforts to have sex really and neither does he. We sleep in separate rooms because he snores. If he tried to have sex with me I would do it, but he doesn't try and I'm not into being the one pushing for it. I'm not attracted to him all that much anymore, but to tell the truth I'm not easily attracted to people. We talked about it a couple times recently and he said we were just busy. He is not cheating on me, that I'm pretty certain of. From day one I never was "in love" with him, but I do love him.
We are talking about taking it to the next level, buying a house and getting married. Should I do this? Up until a year ago when the sex thing got so bad I thought he was the one, but now I'm thinking I cant forego a sex life entirely at my young age. Sometimes we seem more like friends and roommates than a couple, but there is still a lot of affection (kissing, hugging, I love you's.) What should I do?? This is really getting to me
