Holiday temper tantrum...?

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Fliwy

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My wife had a temper tantrum yesterday. Between her family, and my divorced parents, we have 4 houses to visit over the holidays (with one way driving times of 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 1 hour, and 2 hours). I had to work on Wednesday and am working today (Friday)... she's not working (no kids).

Anyway, yesterday she flipped out. Basically saying the holidays are too stressful, and she can't go around making everyone else happy. Now, a couple of my out-of-town friends are no longer welcome at the house. I will be going to my mothers for dinner tonight by myself. I have to make up some excuse why we can't go on a double date with my sister and her boyfriend. I feel like I have to go to HER brother's house (the 2hr drive) without her to help prepare his house for his wife's return from the hospital.

I understand where's she's coming from with all the stress... probably better than she does. I understand that I deal with stress better than she does. But, what do I do now? Do I tell my family that my wife had a mental breakdown and doesn't want to see them? Do I go out to a bar with my friends instead of having them over to my house? Or, do I stay home with my wife and try to make her feel better, and thus ignore friends and family!?!?
 
You would benefit by scheduling a therapy session with your wife to talk it out with an objective third party. Your wife may also need to be on medication. Listen to the therapists suggestions regarding both holiday "scheduling" and your wife's mental state.
 
Which option would make you feel happy?

Which option would YOU want to do, obligations aside??

That's what i would do.
 
I think you should try to talk your wife into going. leave her alone for awhile then try to talk it out, if she still insists on not going, tell her how you feel, if she still says no, then go by yourself! I think you should tell your family, the truth, if you think that's embarrassing, say she's feeling ill and didn't want anyone else to get sick. ( they'll think that's thoughtful ) but don't just go to a bar! holidays are meant to be spent with loved ones, especially ones you don't see often!And about her brother's house, only go if you want to, if you don't want to, but you go anyway, chances are you'll be a grouch, and noone will want you there! Hope this helps!
 
lol

women....:)

we do have a lot of emotional things more then men but seriously. Chill....

but dont tell her to chill ahah

just go on the 2 hour drive, fix up the house adn come back. give her a list of things to do to get ready to go see her family for the holiday's.

When you get back make sure you tell her before hand that you expect those things on the list to be done since you are going a ways to help out HER brother...but again dont make her mad!!

anyway good luck with that.
 
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