How come women's distress is so ignored that they have to resort to pleas for

[HeatherB]

help on the internet? How have we allowed women to find themselves in this position, where they had to give up a child, and then know nothing, not one jot of detail of what became of it?

There are thousands of websites with searches for children borne, given up, never forgotten and always loved.
ETA for those who wouldn't want reunion, wouldn't you have the common decency to put a woman's mind at rest? Some minute gesture to let her know you're OK?
Some people need to grow a heart.

 

[kidmindi]

I think it is terrible that these first mom's have to spend so many years in pain. My heart goes out to every one I see posting on here. I hope someday they find their child happy and healthy.

Oh and for those "If they gave me up, why should I let them know about me ppl", the key word in that sentence is "IF"; meaning you have never been adopted hence have no idea that most adoptees want to know their first parents as much as the first parents want to know them.

Yes there are some adoptees who don't want to be found. I can respect that. Hopefully, if they were ever contacted by a first parent they would send a note saying something to the effect " I am happy and well adjusted in my current life and while I thank you for giving me life I am not intereseted in a relationship"

Yes that would hurt a first mom, but at least she would know her child wsa ok.