My brothers hate each other and it is heartbreaking to watch.
When my mum had my eldest brother, Martin she kept him for ten days and then decided she didn't want to be a Mum anymore and gave him to my Nan. So my Nan brought Martin up.
Then when Martin was 18 months old my selfish, drug addicted, alcoholic of a mother had another son, Jason. Before she'd even left the hospital with Jason she had decided she didn't want him and asked her Mum (My Nan) to take custody of Jason.
My Nan said No. She was already looking after 18 month old, Martin. And she said my Mum couldn't just keep passing everything to her and she had to realise her responsiblities sometime.
So my Mum reluctenly kept Jason. 8 years later she had me (Victoria). My Mum continued to drink and Jason was left to father me. He had to steal food and ask neighbours for milk to try and care for me. He stopped going to school and stayed at home with me. My Mum had a string of unsuccessful relationships and concentrated more on getting her next hit than me or Jason.
To cut a long story short...When I was aged 4 and Jason was 12 social services came round. (I don't remember this but my Nan filled the gaps.) The social workers found the flat dirty and smelly. There was drug items everywhere and my mum was nowhere to be seen. I was found covered in lice bites with only knickers on and my hair was matted and greasy.
We were immediately took into care. Jason didn't want to be adopted and I was put up for adoption. My Nan was contacted by social services and she was horrified to hear the condition we were in. My Nan agreed to take me on.
Jason resented his Nan for not taking him in to start with and for making him suffer the awful neglect he did. He resented Martin for having a good childhood and toys and love and affection that he didn't recieve. He didn't want to live with his Nan and Martin so was put into foster care.
11 years later. Martin (25) and me (15) were reunited with Jason (23). We've all been in touch for 6 years now but Martin and Jason still don't get on. Its so sad they sit together and speak civily but thwere is no love between them. How can I help them bond together as it's affecting both of them. What could I do?
Any Help would be greatly appreciated. Thank U.
Sorry the post is so long.
Victoria
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When my mum had my eldest brother, Martin she kept him for ten days and then decided she didn't want to be a Mum anymore and gave him to my Nan. So my Nan brought Martin up.
Then when Martin was 18 months old my selfish, drug addicted, alcoholic of a mother had another son, Jason. Before she'd even left the hospital with Jason she had decided she didn't want him and asked her Mum (My Nan) to take custody of Jason.
My Nan said No. She was already looking after 18 month old, Martin. And she said my Mum couldn't just keep passing everything to her and she had to realise her responsiblities sometime.
So my Mum reluctenly kept Jason. 8 years later she had me (Victoria). My Mum continued to drink and Jason was left to father me. He had to steal food and ask neighbours for milk to try and care for me. He stopped going to school and stayed at home with me. My Mum had a string of unsuccessful relationships and concentrated more on getting her next hit than me or Jason.
To cut a long story short...When I was aged 4 and Jason was 12 social services came round. (I don't remember this but my Nan filled the gaps.) The social workers found the flat dirty and smelly. There was drug items everywhere and my mum was nowhere to be seen. I was found covered in lice bites with only knickers on and my hair was matted and greasy.
We were immediately took into care. Jason didn't want to be adopted and I was put up for adoption. My Nan was contacted by social services and she was horrified to hear the condition we were in. My Nan agreed to take me on.
Jason resented his Nan for not taking him in to start with and for making him suffer the awful neglect he did. He resented Martin for having a good childhood and toys and love and affection that he didn't recieve. He didn't want to live with his Nan and Martin so was put into foster care.
11 years later. Martin (25) and me (15) were reunited with Jason (23). We've all been in touch for 6 years now but Martin and Jason still don't get on. Its so sad they sit together and speak civily but thwere is no love between them. How can I help them bond together as it's affecting both of them. What could I do?
Any Help would be greatly appreciated. Thank U.
Sorry the post is so long.
Victoria
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