How do I stop feeling hurt and ashamed when they laugh at me?

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I used to hang around with a certain group of people at high school, they all turned against me and I ended up on my own. There was one incident where one girl in the group thought I was hitting on her boyfriend and made really horrible remarks about me to the rest of the group and sending me sly death threats ("look at him again and i'll make sure its the last thing you ever do" etc).....As a result of these incidents I turned into a really cold, withdrawn person and I ended up dropping out of college and doing virtually nothing for 2 years. Now the group I hang around with and that girl who sent me death threats recently found out what I've been doing for 2 years and keeps making sly remarks about it on her facebook page ("class was so hard today but at least im doing something with my life unlike some people! hahahah", that kinda thing) I can't stand the thought of them all laughing at me, it makes me feel ashamed and unworthy of anything. What should I do? How should I brush it off?
 
first and foremost: delete these people from your facebook friends list and make sure they dont have access to yours. they are making these remarks to make you feel bad. if they see you cant see any remarks they make about you, then they will stop making them because you cant read them.

the fact that you dropped out of school is very bad. you need to go back. i think you must suffer from some mild form of social anxiety because you let a social situation completely determine the outcome of another part of your life -- your education. you need to find a power within yourself to stop caring about those people or what they do or say.

here is the best way to do that. imagine in yourself just a bright glowing ball of power. just in your chest. feel its warmth. this is your strength. this is who you are, and it shines brighter than all of their lights combined. whenever you get upset about them or anything they do or say, just picture your light and be happy with the fact that you know yours is much brighter than their's. this will help to build your confidence.

go re-enroll in school and finish your degree. dont let other people rule your life. it is your life, and you are in control. remember that. no one else is ever in control of your life or your emotions or your feelings. you are always the one in control of them.
 
Get off facebook. They can't make fun of things if they don't know about them. Then, get busy and try to move on with your life. Go back to school, work, enjoy new hobbies. Time passes and people should eventually get other things and people in their lives. Sounds like these people have nothing else to do but try to make themselves look important at other's expenses. How pathetic are they?
 
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