how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

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how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

It was the 1st Friday night after the Sunday that she started living at her father's house full-time (vs. part-time for the past 10 years). I agreed to let her live there because after she threatened to commit suicide if I didn't, my therapist told me to tell her ok (I didn't think she's actually do it, nor did I think my ex would allow it). After fighting about telling me - I let her leave , emphasizing to be home on-time, and not high on anything or smelling like smoke or alcohol (she came home earlier than expected and in clean condition). I gave up the battle because we had fought earlier about her desire to not have a relationship with me at all, now, or when she's an adult! She also said she's not gonna want a relationship with her father either when she's adult. I could go on....it's very complicated. I figure I should tell her she can't sleep at my house if she's not gonna respect my rules, ex: telling me where she's going. My family therapist is on vacation for 2 weeks!
 
how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

Ready, grow up and be a parent!!!!
 
how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

well i think it depends on how much u can trust her. personally i think its really annoying when parents always wanna know where ur going (im definitely trustable) maybe shes a little hurt and doesnt feel like u trust her. if shes a scorpio then all scorpios like to have secrets and u should just leave her alone
 
how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

shes 14??!! woman you need to step UP YOUR GAME..she is your daughter and you tell her what to do! your going to have to find a way to disipline her..well not A way but MANY ways to do that..lock the doors when u see her getting ready..tell her to sit down or send her to her room with you following her..and no matter how sad or how bad you feel..scare her..yell at her with anger..and tell SHE AINT GOING ANYWHERE! WHETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT! of course she is going to say stupid things IGNORE IT no matter if she says she hates you and bla bla bla..you show HER who YOU are. TODAY!!!!! like i said STEP YOUR GAME UP!!!! you dont need no freaken therapist you need YOU and onllllyyy YOU..tuffen up..and with the same attitude she gives you,you simply do it back..until she gets the point.PERIOD
 
how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

No, don't leave her alone. It's very crucial right now that you teach her responsibility or she'll end up seriously hurt in the future. She's just at an age where she wants to disobey everyone and yell at authority. She will grow out of it, but don't be willing to go against your better judgement just so she won't "hate" you. A lot of girls around that age "hate" their mothers, but it's not really hate. It's just that age.
 
how do I stop my 14 year old daughter from leaving the house, when she won't tell me where she's going?

Why would your daughter wouldn't want a relationship with you ??? or her father??? maybe you did something wrong when she was small you know kids do what you showed them maybe talk to her woman to woman not girl to girl never fight with her at the same level if you scream she will scream don't make her a puppet I think you should put severe rules and put her to "prove" like if she comes really late call the police they will take care of her send her to their camps and if you really love her let her be if she doesn't want to have a relationship with you let her she'll be mother one day and that day she will understand and comeback to you just do your best and remmember don't go to her level your a woman.
 
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