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<blockquote data-quote="Kelly" data-source="post: 2627765" data-attributes="member: 209596">You let him handle his mother that is what you do.Also, stop referring to it as &quot;my&quot; wedding, and start referring to it as &quot;our&quot; wedding.Right now, yes you are coming off as total bitch to me and I don&#039;t even know you, if you go to her with the attitude you have in this question and details that is how you are going to come off to her.She is simply trying to be helpful especially since you&#039;re not from the area and wont really know other than reviews who is trustworthy and who is not and you&#039;re throwing it back in her face.&nbsp; Just tell her (or rather have her son tell her) &quot;We appreciate your input and suggestions however, we have decided amongst the two of us how we would like things to be&quot;.Her eagerness shows she is excited about this wedding for her son (again its not just your wedding), don&#039;t totally ruin that for her.&nbsp; One some level if you&#039;re in the beginning stages of your planning you may grow to appreciate someone who is willing to help you.&nbsp; Wedding planning can be very stressful.&nbsp; I welcomed my MIL wanting to help, I didn&#039;t exclude her from things.&nbsp; Anything I included my mom in, I also included his mom.&nbsp; We also paid for our own wedding (as we should have).&nbsp; The finances of my wedding wasn&#039;t a deciding factor for how I opted to treat people.If you go to her with the attitude you have in these details you&#039;re going to right off the bat create a bad relationship with her and also create bad feelings where there doesn&#039;t need to be any.Learn to pick your battles...&nbsp; everything in the wedding doesn&#039;t need to be one of them.Edit:&nbsp; This woman may be a stranger to you, but clearly she isn&#039;t to your fiance.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Kelly, post: 2627765, member: 209596"] You let him handle his mother that is what you do. Also, stop referring to it as "my" wedding, and start referring to it as "our" wedding. Right now, yes you are coming off as total bitch to me and I don't even know you, if you go to her with the attitude you have in this question and details that is how you are going to come off to her. She is simply trying to be helpful especially since you're not from the area and wont really know other than reviews who is trustworthy and who is not and you're throwing it back in her face. Just tell her (or rather have her son tell her) "We appreciate your input and suggestions however, we have decided amongst the two of us how we would like things to be". Her eagerness shows she is excited about this wedding for her son (again its not just your wedding), don't totally ruin that for her. One some level if you're in the beginning stages of your planning you may grow to appreciate someone who is willing to help you. Wedding planning can be very stressful. I welcomed my MIL wanting to help, I didn't exclude her from things. Anything I included my mom in, I also included his mom. We also paid for our own wedding (as we should have). The finances of my wedding wasn't a deciding factor for how I opted to treat people. If you go to her with the attitude you have in these details you're going to right off the bat create a bad relationship with her and also create bad feelings where there doesn't need to be any. Learn to pick your battles... everything in the wedding doesn't need to be one of them. Edit: This woman may be a stranger to you, but clearly she isn't to your fiance. [/QUOTE]

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