Hey everyone,
So I have a question which has been lingering on my mind for a really long time, ever since one of my friends (aspiring psychiatrist) pointed out that I'm "not in touch" with my emotional side.
I just don't cry very often. I do feel other emotions though, I get happy, I get sad, I get angry, I get frustrated like everyone else. But I just don't resort to crying very often. The only few times I've ever cried was when my dog died 3 years ago and my spinal fusion surgery because it was PAINFUL, to say the least. For this reason, this one friend keeps telling me that I need to "get in touch" with my feelings more.
However, I don't think that's the case at all. I think I am in touch with my feelings, I just deal with it in more unconventional ways. When I'm frustrated with someone or a particular situation I vent it out by playing the piano, because it calms me down. When I'm upset or am feeling low, I do some maths, calculus, statistics even mechanics. (I know I sound geeky but it really helps!) and because I have all of these alternatives to rely on, I don't feel the need to..cry.
This has been the case even when I was younger, my mum always says how I've been emotionally strong and never used to cry. I remember fighting and arguing with siblings but little did I ever cry for emotional reasons.
My friends tell me they cry atleast twice or three times a week! which to me is a lot. They're shocked to find out that I don't cry nights before A level exams, or when I have a "heart-break" or when I got rejected from one of my universities. I see every downside and rocky road as an incentive to do well in my future obstacles. Does that mean I'm unemotional? I certainly don't want to be.
I never ever thought I was unemotional or a "rock" before this friend mentioned it to me. I still think I'm in touch with my feelings, I just think I'm very good at controlling them and knowing how to deal with situations properly as opposed to just resorting to crying. To me, people cry out of frustration of not knowing how to deal with their emotions, such as grieving. Perhaps this is a key reason why men don't cry very often. (I'm a girl btw)
So what do you think? Do you have ways besides crying in which you deal with emotions?
Am I unemotional and rock/wall-like like my friend says? I can see where she may be coming from, to a person who is very much in touch with their emotional side and cries frequently, I must seem like a wall.
I hate that I am labelled as an unemotional, stone, wall-like, cold person. I'm not that at all and I can slowly see my other friends viewing me in that way and that's not me at all. I'm no Voldemort.
So I have a question which has been lingering on my mind for a really long time, ever since one of my friends (aspiring psychiatrist) pointed out that I'm "not in touch" with my emotional side.
I just don't cry very often. I do feel other emotions though, I get happy, I get sad, I get angry, I get frustrated like everyone else. But I just don't resort to crying very often. The only few times I've ever cried was when my dog died 3 years ago and my spinal fusion surgery because it was PAINFUL, to say the least. For this reason, this one friend keeps telling me that I need to "get in touch" with my feelings more.
However, I don't think that's the case at all. I think I am in touch with my feelings, I just deal with it in more unconventional ways. When I'm frustrated with someone or a particular situation I vent it out by playing the piano, because it calms me down. When I'm upset or am feeling low, I do some maths, calculus, statistics even mechanics. (I know I sound geeky but it really helps!) and because I have all of these alternatives to rely on, I don't feel the need to..cry.
This has been the case even when I was younger, my mum always says how I've been emotionally strong and never used to cry. I remember fighting and arguing with siblings but little did I ever cry for emotional reasons.
My friends tell me they cry atleast twice or three times a week! which to me is a lot. They're shocked to find out that I don't cry nights before A level exams, or when I have a "heart-break" or when I got rejected from one of my universities. I see every downside and rocky road as an incentive to do well in my future obstacles. Does that mean I'm unemotional? I certainly don't want to be.
I never ever thought I was unemotional or a "rock" before this friend mentioned it to me. I still think I'm in touch with my feelings, I just think I'm very good at controlling them and knowing how to deal with situations properly as opposed to just resorting to crying. To me, people cry out of frustration of not knowing how to deal with their emotions, such as grieving. Perhaps this is a key reason why men don't cry very often. (I'm a girl btw)
So what do you think? Do you have ways besides crying in which you deal with emotions?
Am I unemotional and rock/wall-like like my friend says? I can see where she may be coming from, to a person who is very much in touch with their emotional side and cries frequently, I must seem like a wall.
I hate that I am labelled as an unemotional, stone, wall-like, cold person. I'm not that at all and I can slowly see my other friends viewing me in that way and that's not me at all. I'm no Voldemort.