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<blockquote data-quote="Aubrey" data-source="post: 1990053" data-attributes="member: 115434">My guy friend just got into a prestigious grad program and I bought him a shirt I knew he really wanted but would never buy for himself.&nbsp; Since I have been pretty in love with him for quite some time, I decided to just make this the moment that I&#039;d be a little more apparent about my feelings.&nbsp; I asked him out to a fancy restaurant and he agreed.&nbsp; When I got there, things seemed pretty normal until I told him I bought him a congratulations gift for getting into his program.&nbsp; He made a face as if I were strange to do that and thanked me the way you would thank your aunt who just knitted you a sweater you&#039;ll never wear.&nbsp; When he opened the gift, he was ecstatic and very thankful but I couldn&#039;t quite get over that initial reaction as if my buying him a gift was over the line for friends or something?The rest of the night, I felt like something was off between us... as if he suddenly figured out I was into him and was sticking around to be polite.&nbsp; I gave him two very obvious ways out of the night (I told him I knew he was busy and had to go really far to get home) but he didn&#039;t take them and stayed and we ended up having a four hour dinner but the whole time there was this strange feeling looming over me that made me feel like he was just throwing me a bone.&nbsp; The night ended with him hugging me with like a foot between us as he dropped me off at my door and he says, &quot;I had fun.&nbsp; That was nice&quot; and I haven&#039;t heard from him since...How should I take this? Why did a gift change the way we relate? Did I totally mess up? Has he figured me out?</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Aubrey, post: 1990053, member: 115434"] My guy friend just got into a prestigious grad program and I bought him a shirt I knew he really wanted but would never buy for himself. Since I have been pretty in love with him for quite some time, I decided to just make this the moment that I'd be a little more apparent about my feelings. I asked him out to a fancy restaurant and he agreed. When I got there, things seemed pretty normal until I told him I bought him a congratulations gift for getting into his program. He made a face as if I were strange to do that and thanked me the way you would thank your aunt who just knitted you a sweater you'll never wear. When he opened the gift, he was ecstatic and very thankful but I couldn't quite get over that initial reaction as if my buying him a gift was over the line for friends or something? The rest of the night, I felt like something was off between us... as if he suddenly figured out I was into him and was sticking around to be polite. I gave him two very obvious ways out of the night (I told him I knew he was busy and had to go really far to get home) but he didn't take them and stayed and we ended up having a four hour dinner but the whole time there was this strange feeling looming over me that made me feel like he was just throwing me a bone. The night ended with him hugging me with like a foot between us as he dropped me off at my door and he says, "I had fun. That was nice" and I haven't heard from him since... How should I take this? Why did a gift change the way we relate? Did I totally mess up? Has he figured me out? [/QUOTE]

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