My husbands family and I dont get along it all started with my monster-in-law, i mean mother in law and ..well its a long story lets keep it short when i first met my husband he was kind of a "mommas-boy" if you know what i mean and his mother never got along with me or our daughter. So his parents are divorced but theyre very much alike. Last time his father stayed with us we ended up breaking up it was too much to bear for me. His father is annoying, tries to tell me how to run my life, houshold, and raise my daughter. Hes constantly nagging about something and hes disrespectful. Now he wants to come to "visit" and my husband is very excited because he hasnt seen him in a year and i just do not feel confortable with being in the same house with a man who hates me? I tried talking to my husband about it but all he says is " Oh, that was years ago (2years) and hes changed and hes fine with you now" but im not too sure. I dont know what to do because spending a full 2 months with my father in law in the same house will be like hell i know it.
How to cope with annoying father in law coming for vacation?
Hummingbird
Member
i was going to answer your question, but i read playstation's answers first. that is much better suggestion than anyone could have come up with except to offer him hot chocolate laced with ex lax everything he offered his criticism try both he will be too busy spewing crap from the right end instead of with his mouth and hubby will be in a bad mood and want him to leave. her answers was classic and i bet it will work. still chuckling over that one.
NotPleasedatAll
New member
I agree with Violet. Expect the best, yet be prepared for the worst. Be patient with him, and when you feel like your patience might run out, do something kind for him. If he is mean spirited and angry, determine that you will respond kindly and calmly. He is your husband's father. Remember that a kind answer turns away wrath. And remember, he can give advice, but that does not mean you have to accept it, just listen. If his advice is sound and wise, acknowledgment it, if not, move beyond it. Also, I will pass along some wisdom my best friend gave me when I had a difficult roommate: Would you rather be right, or live in peace? Sometimes we have to forego our insistence on being right about something, when it is not anything of real consequence, in order to keep the peace. And remember that people who are hurting hurt others, so his attitude and behavior probably has nothing to do with you, you were just the target at the moment. Go in with a positive attitude, your father in law might surprise you; and/or with your kind response to his potential madness, you might surprise him.
The best way to cope is to smile and be gracious. You truly have to be the bigger person. Take everything he says with a pinch of salt. Smile and nod when he offers his unsolicited advice. Keep the peace, if you wish to stay in harmony with your spouse. You can not change this man. If you believe that his visit will be hell, it will be. The choice is yours. Trust me, I speak from experience. Good Luck, and I wish you well.
I feel your pain! My husband's grandmother is like that. When she comes to visit, EVERYTHING is wrong. The dishes aren't done correctly, the laundry is wrong, the floor isn't mopped right, the living room furniture needs to be rearranged, I have the wrong tooth brushes. Don't even get me started on cooking! It is ridiculous.
In my experience, the best way to handle these situations is to be so reasonable, nice, and polite that everything he says or does makes him seem like a jerk. If he insults you, smile and take it with all the good grace you can muster. If he complains about something, is your sweetest voice, say thank you for your concern, but this is my home, and I prefer it this way. People eventually start riding him to be nicer, because you are a most gracious host, and are doing everything you can to make him comfortable. Its a very sweet victory.
Also, wine helps.
Good luck!
In my experience, the best way to handle these situations is to be so reasonable, nice, and polite that everything he says or does makes him seem like a jerk. If he insults you, smile and take it with all the good grace you can muster. If he complains about something, is your sweetest voice, say thank you for your concern, but this is my home, and I prefer it this way. People eventually start riding him to be nicer, because you are a most gracious host, and are doing everything you can to make him comfortable. Its a very sweet victory.
Also, wine helps.
Good luck!
Playstation4Life
New member
Lol just tell your husband no sex until his father leaves. He won't last a week 