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<blockquote data-quote="NotPleasedatAll" data-source="post: 2577401" data-attributes="member: 876407"><p>I agree with Violet. Expect the best, yet be prepared for the worst. Be patient with him, and when you feel like your patience might run out, do something kind for him. If he is mean spirited and angry, determine that you will respond kindly and calmly. He is your husband&#039;s father.&nbsp; Remember that a kind answer turns away wrath. And remember, he can give advice, but that does not mean you have to accept it, just listen. If his advice is sound and wise, acknowledgment it, if not, move beyond it.&nbsp; Also, I will pass along some wisdom my best friend gave me when I had a difficult roommate: Would you rather be right, or live in peace? Sometimes we have to forego our insistence on being right about something, when it is not anything of real consequence, in order to keep the peace. And remember that people who are hurting hurt others, so his attitude and behavior probably has nothing to do with you, you were just the target at the moment.&nbsp; Go in with a positive attitude, your father in law might surprise you; and/or with your kind response to his potential madness, you might surprise him.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="NotPleasedatAll, post: 2577401, member: 876407"] I agree with Violet. Expect the best, yet be prepared for the worst. Be patient with him, and when you feel like your patience might run out, do something kind for him. If he is mean spirited and angry, determine that you will respond kindly and calmly. He is your husband's father. Remember that a kind answer turns away wrath. And remember, he can give advice, but that does not mean you have to accept it, just listen. If his advice is sound and wise, acknowledgment it, if not, move beyond it. Also, I will pass along some wisdom my best friend gave me when I had a difficult roommate: Would you rather be right, or live in peace? Sometimes we have to forego our insistence on being right about something, when it is not anything of real consequence, in order to keep the peace. And remember that people who are hurting hurt others, so his attitude and behavior probably has nothing to do with you, you were just the target at the moment. Go in with a positive attitude, your father in law might surprise you; and/or with your kind response to his potential madness, you might surprise him. [/QUOTE]

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