I'm 30 years old, and although I've been a bit promiscuous in the past, those days are gone. As a matter of fact, since my last break-up, I really have no interest in talking about sex with guys or having sex. I'm not on any dating websites or anything. The dilemma is that when I'm talking to guys the conversation always turns to sex. When this happens, how can I keep it from going that direction? Is this a sign that the guy only wants sex if he brings it up when he hasn't met me personally (through text) or has only met me once or twice socially? Is this the way it is for all girls, or is the guy testing me, or is there some sign the guy gets that I [used to] put out? Should I stop talking to the guy, or just pretend that he didn't say anything and change the subject? It's so confusing! I'm an adult and I don't know how to talk to guys anymore! I feel like I'm starting over, and I don't want to be that girl anymore.