How to tell my future daughter in law to be more cautious with money?

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I'm happy for my son that he finally found someone. I think his fiance is a great girl. She's very polite, generous, and brilliant. She is well mannered and good at everything she does. I only have one concern and that is how she spend money. I noticed that everything she use are expensive brands. She uses expensive make up, clothes, cars, and everything else. I shop at places like Walmart and dollar stores while she shops at stores like Sak Fifth and Tiffany's. I know that she came from an old money family and is use to the finest things in life but I'm not use to that and I'm afraid that this can in the future ruin my son financially. I kind of pointed out to my son a while ago (before they got engaged) and he was like "Well she make double of what I make so I can't tell her how to spend her money." It makes me feel iffy knowing that my son have no control and will have no control of how she spend the money. Right now it's her money and her family money but in the future I'm afraid that his money will become her money. How can I get her to rethink the value of money and spending them more wisely?
She's an only child so her family is giving her everything... the car, the house, saving account. I give her some credit for working and make 6 figures but she needs to know to spending them wisely and her family handing her everything doesn't help her grow up and because more responsible financially.
 
As you stated she's from the old money family so I'm gonna assume that she is inheriting or already inherited a lot from her family. On top of that she have a job. She's no spoiled little brat if you work and earn the money just like any one of us. So let her spend her money. Right now neither you or your son can say anything because they are not married yet.
 
I agree with Kevin and JustMe. It is NOT your relationship and your son + fiancee' will just have to find things out on their own. As long as bills are paid and (potential) children are taken care of, who cares? She may have wayyy more money than she's letting on, which may enable her to buy these things. You could end up getting your feelings hurt if you continue to bring it up. There's a line between being concerned and being meddlesome. Only bring it up if foreclosures, judgments or evictions are occurring.
 
Suggest to your son that he discuss the financial situation (and how it will change when they get married) with his fiance. I think it's important for a couple to understand how they are going to handle various things before they get married. They should know whether they're going to use a joint bank account or have separate ones. If they have different views on money, it should be discussed beforehand, just to make sure they're on the same page when they do get married.
 
She make 6 figures annually and you have problem with her spending her money? Assuming that that doesn't include the interest from her saving and whatever else that she already inherited, i think her family should be worried about your son spending her money... LOL...

Anyways, there are reasons why "old money" is "old money". She came from a long line of well wealth-management family. These people are not new money-get rich quick type people. These people take great pride in their wealth and are more conscious about how to spend their money than you think. And if she's working, then she's not just sitting around burning her family money.

If you say something she may think that you want her money. This can ruin their relationship so please don't do it.
 
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