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<blockquote data-quote="tessa" data-source="post: 2226364" data-attributes="member: 217926">Yikes! i totally feel for you! I have inlaw issues too but we haven&#039;t actually been on any vacations so I can&#039;t say if they would follow us or not. My advice: don&#039;t tell them where you&#039;re going. Pretend that you&#039;re doing the backpacking thing and making it up as you go along. We didn&#039;t tell my inlaws where we lived for a while when we first got married and it was AMAZING! My MIL wanted to stop by about about 9am the morning after our wedding.... my mom didn&#039;t tell them where we lived though (thankfully!). Just tell them that you&#039;re going on a vacation to Italy and France and which dates (it&#039;s good for them to know incase something happens) but don&#039;t let them know the exct campsite and such. And if they find out, it&#039;s always okay to change plans last minute. Just say that you found another place and it was just too amazing to not stay at. And inlaws get mad. Sometimes they don&#039;t talk to you for months. It&#039;s not always a bad thing <img src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f609.png" class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" width="64" height="64" alt=";)" title="Wink&nbsp; &nbsp; ;)"&nbsp; data-smilie="2"data-shortname=";)" /> You guys need to start setting your boundaries at some point. They&#039;re not going to like i but they will have to accept the fact that if they want to see you it will have to be on your terms, not always theirs. It&#039;s not okay for them to intrude in your life like that. So go on your vacation. Deal with the inlaws when you get back. Or don&#039;t for a while until things cool down. It&#039;s just normal growing pains for a family to go through. My husband and I have been there and done that. Now that there&#039;s a grandchild int he picture my inlaws realize that they have to &quot;play by our rules&quot; if they want to see him. They still butt in where they shouldn&#039;t but they also know where we stand. Good luck and make sure to not think about the situation at home until you&#039;re home. you can&#039;t deal with it while you&#039;re gone anyway.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="tessa, post: 2226364, member: 217926"] Yikes! i totally feel for you! I have inlaw issues too but we haven't actually been on any vacations so I can't say if they would follow us or not. My advice: don't tell them where you're going. Pretend that you're doing the backpacking thing and making it up as you go along. We didn't tell my inlaws where we lived for a while when we first got married and it was AMAZING! My MIL wanted to stop by about about 9am the morning after our wedding.... my mom didn't tell them where we lived though (thankfully!). Just tell them that you're going on a vacation to Italy and France and which dates (it's good for them to know incase something happens) but don't let them know the exct campsite and such. And if they find out, it's always okay to change plans last minute. Just say that you found another place and it was just too amazing to not stay at. And inlaws get mad. Sometimes they don't talk to you for months. It's not always a bad thing ;) You guys need to start setting your boundaries at some point. They're not going to like i but they will have to accept the fact that if they want to see you it will have to be on your terms, not always theirs. It's not okay for them to intrude in your life like that. So go on your vacation. Deal with the inlaws when you get back. Or don't for a while until things cool down. It's just normal growing pains for a family to go through. My husband and I have been there and done that. Now that there's a grandchild int he picture my inlaws realize that they have to "play by our rules" if they want to see him. They still butt in where they shouldn't but they also know where we stand. Good luck and make sure to not think about the situation at home until you're home. you can't deal with it while you're gone anyway. [/QUOTE]

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