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<blockquote data-quote="FunkGirl" data-source="post: 2098156" data-attributes="member: 749905">What should I do? I feel like my parents don&#039;t really have an interest in me. I made dinner and set the table and they just came at the table seperate times and didn&#039;t eat dinner with me at the table.&nbsp; I thought if I set the table and made dinner they would sit down with me. My parents never make curfews for me or ask me where I&#039;m going when I leave the house (I have found myself wishing my parents were actually strict or wish they would ground me because at times I have felt like they don&#039;t care about me) but I know they do.&nbsp; Theres a roof over my head and food in the fridge, I just wish they wanted to know whats going on in my life..like ask me whats up or how my day went. I&#039;ve noticed when friends of mine&#039;s parents call and check up on them I find myself thinking &quot;I wish my parents would check up on me or call in or at least want to know where I am, why don&#039;t my parents ever do that?&quot;....How can I be closer to my parents?&nbsp; Or get them to ask me how I am?&nbsp; I wish they would ask me or be interested in my life.&nbsp; I can&#039;t just say &quot;Mom, dad can you be closer to me?&quot; That just wouldn&#039;t fly in my family..we don&#039;t talk like that and we aren&#039;t open.&nbsp; Which would probably explain why I have to obsessively talk about everything in all my other relationships.&nbsp; Heh, have you ever been in this situation?&nbsp; Also. my parents drink; I have another question posted about that. but I don&#039;t think it&#039;s the alcohol that gets in the way of them being interested in me, because this is how it&#039;s always been. &nbsp;I am very grateful for what my parents do for me and I do not expect things to be handed to me.&nbsp; I have a job, buy my own clothes, gasoline and I&#039;m paying off my car on my own.I know they want the best for me and want me to be independent which I feel I am, but it would be nice if they were more interested in me like what my life is all about and who I hang out with and what I want to do with my future. Why don&#039;t my parents ever set limits for me or give me a curfew or ask where I&#039;m going?&nbsp; I know my parents love me, but they never verbalize it.&nbsp; I guess I don&#039;t verbalize it either...it&#039;s always been like this.&nbsp; We&#039;re all in our own little bubbles and all have different schedules.&nbsp; I want to have dinner with them, I want to do family stuff.&nbsp; The rare occasions we do have &#039;family time&#039; (which is a few times a year) it&#039;s awkward..I don&#039;t know how else to describe it. We all have different schedules and lives but we live together..</blockquote>

[QUOTE="FunkGirl, post: 2098156, member: 749905"] What should I do? I feel like my parents don't really have an interest in me. I made dinner and set the table and they just came at the table seperate times and didn't eat dinner with me at the table. I thought if I set the table and made dinner they would sit down with me. My parents never make curfews for me or ask me where I'm going when I leave the house (I have found myself wishing my parents were actually strict or wish they would ground me because at times I have felt like they don't care about me) but I know they do. Theres a roof over my head and food in the fridge, I just wish they wanted to know whats going on in my life..like ask me whats up or how my day went. I've noticed when friends of mine's parents call and check up on them I find myself thinking "I wish my parents would check up on me or call in or at least want to know where I am, why don't my parents ever do that?"....How can I be closer to my parents? Or get them to ask me how I am? I wish they would ask me or be interested in my life. I can't just say "Mom, dad can you be closer to me?" That just wouldn't fly in my family..we don't talk like that and we aren't open. Which would probably explain why I have to obsessively talk about everything in all my other relationships. Heh, have you ever been in this situation? Also. my parents drink; I have another question posted about that. but I don't think it's the alcohol that gets in the way of them being interested in me, because this is how it's always been. I am very grateful for what my parents do for me and I do not expect things to be handed to me. I have a job, buy my own clothes, gasoline and I'm paying off my car on my own. I know they want the best for me and want me to be independent which I feel I am, but it would be nice if they were more interested in me like what my life is all about and who I hang out with and what I want to do with my future. Why don't my parents ever set limits for me or give me a curfew or ask where I'm going? I know my parents love me, but they never verbalize it. I guess I don't verbalize it either...it's always been like this. We're all in our own little bubbles and all have different schedules. I want to have dinner with them, I want to do family stuff. The rare occasions we do have 'family time' (which is a few times a year) it's awkward..I don't know how else to describe it. We all have different schedules and lives but we live together.. [/QUOTE]

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