I find it interesting the two topics discussed this morning?

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Are gender roles and now nannies.
Everyone was head strong in saying their son could wear a dress and play with barbies if they wanted, and a few now are saying a male couldn't watch over their child.

Which is it - is everyone equal in your eyes, or do you have bias?

I am amused.
 
I am equal. If my son wants to wear a dress it isn't going to define who is he for the rest of his life.
 
Yeah I don't understand not wanting a male nanny if he was qualified and you liked him best of all the applicants. Just plain sexism. You couldn't get away with saying you don't want a female cop but it's fine to discriminate against males. I don't think barbies are gendered toys either, they're fashion dolls and there are plenty of male fashion designers. Maybe if more boys played with them Ken would have as nice of a wardrobe as Barbie.
 
I had a male babysitter - never had a nanny of either sex.

Males are the predominant perpetrators - a healthy skepticism is required if a male approaches you about being a nanny/babysitter - but if you know of a good guy that is majoring in education, why wouldn't you ask him? Our male babysitter was awesome, but he didn't come to me - I went to him. My kids loved hanging out with him, and had stories of how "gross" it was that he could crack all his knuckles and his nose (it's actually a trick), and he put ketchup on everything ("ewww, even his macaroni and cheese pizza")!
 
My son was Christened in a dress, had his own Barbie doll and easy bake oven. He's now a 16 year old deer hunter without a trace of femininity and a really good handle on sexual orientation. Nothing bothers him, everyone is the same, that's how he was raised. Also he doesn't feel like he needs to prove his manhood, he's secure. Kids learn what you teach them, even the non-verbal things.
 
I picked my day care because I liked the idea of the male there. Sure he was the director and I knew he wouldn't have much day-to-day time with the kids, but I thought it important to have a 'father figure' for my daughter, too. She's got enough "mother figures" with all the female teachers, it was nice that this guy pitches in and helps out where needed. All the kids seemed to like him, too.

Yep, I'd hire a male nanny. And if my (non-existant - I feel that's important to add) son decided to wear dresses, he could.
 
I wouldn't care as long as he didn't show up to work in a dress
 
Children choose their own roles and identify with their own gender, regardless of their sex, you can't force them one way or another.
 
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