If a guy asks you to go on an exotic vacation with him, which was not in your...

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...plans...? ...and have other financial priorities at the moment, is it expected that you pay for your own share? There is another trip that I have been planning, which is visiting a dear friend, I am prepared for that vacation financially, however not for his.
 
I would just be honest an say that you can not afford it at the time.

I would never assume that someone is going to pay my way. Also if you can not afford to go then don't.
There is nothing crummier then going on a trip when someone has all the power because they have all the money.
 
Tell him the truth. Let him know you are planning on visiting a close friend in the near future, and don't have the funds to do both trips. So, even though you'd really love to go with him, the timing is not good for you financially. Don't expect that he's planning to pay just because he asked you. If he offers to pay, that's nice, but don't ask or expect it.
 
You simply state that your vacation funds this year are used. That would be his que to offer to pay. If he does not offer to pay your way, then you are staying home.
 
I think the person being asked should say up front that they can not afford the trip. The person offering will either say "oh too bad" or, "I will pay your way".
 
If a guy asked me, I would assume he is paying. You need to communicate with him about this. Without sounding awkward, simply say " That sounds incredible but I can't afford it right now" and see what he says.
 
If you actually would like to go on the vacation and the finances are the only thing holding you back then tell him so. My rule is that I don't invite my partner out or away unless I expect to pay since I invited him. If you tell him that you would love to but just can't afford it right now he may say that he plans to pay - then you can decide if you want to go and if your comfortable with that. If he doesn't offer to pay no harm, no foul. Good luck.
 
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