LOVINmeandlife
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I know, silly questions but even women within the early-late 20's have no clue. From my grandpa's words of wisdom and from experience, this is what I have with guys (and my apologies, I don't mean to stereotype but this is guys "in general"). If a guy approaches you somehow, he wants something from you:1. wants to get to know you, 2. wants to get in your pants (or for bonus 1+2), 3. wants you to do him a favor and is not interested. If he just wants to get in your pants, he'll rush it or if he's nice, take you out for dinner. If he wants a favor, he'll want it done w/o HIM seeing you. If he's generally interested, he'll want to see you.
With shy guys, I can never tell. I met one over the summer and we were introduced by mutual friends. I was friendly, said "hi" but never really approached him to talk that night. My grandfather always said to keep it ladylike and "old school" (but totally up to each woman's preference). "If he's interested, he'll come up and approach you. Doesn't matter when, where, or how. He'll come to you." That's what stopped me from talking to him that night. Apparently, he added me on fb a month after that and I just said his request. Once I added him, he's been talking, asking how I was doing, etc.. he just mentioned (and somehow squeezed in there) how "maybe we'll see each other
" through our mutual friends next month. You don't want to think anything else of it but I did that once (assuming he just only wanted to be friends) and it ended up being an awkward, confusing situation. Which brings another point to "grandpa's advice" - guys don't talk to girls to " be friends". So can we safely assume he's simply interested?
With shy guys, I can never tell. I met one over the summer and we were introduced by mutual friends. I was friendly, said "hi" but never really approached him to talk that night. My grandfather always said to keep it ladylike and "old school" (but totally up to each woman's preference). "If he's interested, he'll come up and approach you. Doesn't matter when, where, or how. He'll come to you." That's what stopped me from talking to him that night. Apparently, he added me on fb a month after that and I just said his request. Once I added him, he's been talking, asking how I was doing, etc.. he just mentioned (and somehow squeezed in there) how "maybe we'll see each other
" through our mutual friends next month. You don't want to think anything else of it but I did that once (assuming he just only wanted to be friends) and it ended up being an awkward, confusing situation. Which brings another point to "grandpa's advice" - guys don't talk to girls to " be friends". So can we safely assume he's simply interested?