I never signed up for a sexless life but marriage is slowly creating this.
My wife claims not to be doing it but I feel she with-holds sex as a means of
punishment. Chores not getting done on HER schedule, she with-holds affection & sex.
(she doesn't seem to need IT as much...)
By her actions (whether consciously or unconsciously,..) she seems to saying
"oh things aren't being done as quickly as I feel they should, then I just won't be nice."
She also likes to say stuff like "oh boy I’ll have to give you a reward for doing this or that"
I don't care for that concept bc it sets up like a dog/master relationship. "be a good dog
and sit,..and I'll give you a milkbone".
Love and affection should be genuine and without strings. An expression of love and
not a reward for doing chores. I'm so disgusted with this that I don't even want to be
intimate anymore. She's ruined it for me.
Therapist told her not to do these things but she's not taking the advise bc she doesn't
like the FEMALE therapist agreeing with ME.
My wife claims not to be doing it but I feel she with-holds sex as a means of
punishment. Chores not getting done on HER schedule, she with-holds affection & sex.
(she doesn't seem to need IT as much...)
By her actions (whether consciously or unconsciously,..) she seems to saying
"oh things aren't being done as quickly as I feel they should, then I just won't be nice."
She also likes to say stuff like "oh boy I’ll have to give you a reward for doing this or that"
I don't care for that concept bc it sets up like a dog/master relationship. "be a good dog
and sit,..and I'll give you a milkbone".
Love and affection should be genuine and without strings. An expression of love and
not a reward for doing chores. I'm so disgusted with this that I don't even want to be
intimate anymore. She's ruined it for me.
Therapist told her not to do these things but she's not taking the advise bc she doesn't
like the FEMALE therapist agreeing with ME.