Say you went to a fella about a girl he is friends with and told him that the whole reason you stayed away from him was because of her shit towards you ( you and he used to like each other, I am female).She was giving me awful grief, horrible sublte nasty stuff. No one saw it.She brought him into it an awful lot but I never said it to him. I did it (told him)cause he turned cold on me and I thought I was losing him because of her, so I told him I just wanted to clear my name. He was defensive, non committal, said he was stunned that she would do that cause in his experience she was straight etc, even with him. He said he was friends with her and me and lots of other people in work. He suggested reasons why she might be annoyed with me and checked with me that this were invalid. He blushed when I confronted him about being cold with me and mistook what I said. At the end, he asked me was his advice ok. I said yep. He told me then that if it happened again to ask her straight out. Did I make a mistake?