i am 21 and have been in my first relationship for a year and seven months. it is a long distance relationship and i plan to move with them in 2012. but starting and slowly progressing since early 2009, i have noticed a fault in how i am in a relationship. and i don't know what it means or how to change.
i've been over analyzing everything, nit-picking at all my partner's short comings, faults and immaturities, always attaching messages to what i say, being constantly critical of everything they say or do, obsessively dissecting layers of the relationship, constantly being suspicious of whether they may turn out to be too selfish, detached or happy on their own, constantly thinking about all my fears of what could go wrong if i make the wrong choices...
is this a phase someone like me would naturally go through? considering it's my first relationship late in my life and being that it's a long distance one? i'm a deep deep thinker about everything. but in this case-it's feeding off something creating something i can't control.
please, i love them too much to pollute my feelings for them. please help.
i've been over analyzing everything, nit-picking at all my partner's short comings, faults and immaturities, always attaching messages to what i say, being constantly critical of everything they say or do, obsessively dissecting layers of the relationship, constantly being suspicious of whether they may turn out to be too selfish, detached or happy on their own, constantly thinking about all my fears of what could go wrong if i make the wrong choices...
is this a phase someone like me would naturally go through? considering it's my first relationship late in my life and being that it's a long distance one? i'm a deep deep thinker about everything. but in this case-it's feeding off something creating something i can't control.
please, i love them too much to pollute my feelings for them. please help.