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<blockquote data-quote="SamuelLann" data-source="post: 2429705" data-attributes="member: 833612"><p>My first thought was that having another baby at this point might have been a bad idea but now i envy you.&nbsp; My wife and i focused on careers first. College then our jobs and after that establishing my business. At this point, we are 35 years old. Between the to of us, our annual take home is about $350,000 and now its too late, my wife cant have children for health reasons. But she could have conceived ten years ago. So, the bills are paid, money is good and she is terribly depressed about not having a family. You can get through this. Keep looking. Opportunities will present themselves. In the meantime, buckle down, reduce household expenses and try to stay patient with each other. (consider relocating near family for them to babysit and provide emotional support, or possibly a smaller town in the south where cost of living is less?) The financial problems can tear a family apart without the patience to stick together through the hard times. Remember that your situation can change in a second when least expected. Things will get better and you`ll have each other to lean on until then. When things seem bleakest, look at your children and remember that THAT is whats most important in life. Not the cool gadgets that the neighbors show off. I was raised poor. Just my mother and me. When i was in high school she worked full time and went to college full time. We had plenty food and a house. I didn&#039;t have the best clothes or toys but we were extremely close and that strong bond has stayed with us because we struggled together and recognized how special every little thing was. Looking back i realize how much she must have gone without in order to send me to private school back then and it makes me love her even more. Money can come later with hard work and a good support system at home, and while it is vital, family matters most of all.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="SamuelLann, post: 2429705, member: 833612"] My first thought was that having another baby at this point might have been a bad idea but now i envy you. My wife and i focused on careers first. College then our jobs and after that establishing my business. At this point, we are 35 years old. Between the to of us, our annual take home is about $350,000 and now its too late, my wife cant have children for health reasons. But she could have conceived ten years ago. So, the bills are paid, money is good and she is terribly depressed about not having a family. You can get through this. Keep looking. Opportunities will present themselves. In the meantime, buckle down, reduce household expenses and try to stay patient with each other. (consider relocating near family for them to babysit and provide emotional support, or possibly a smaller town in the south where cost of living is less?) The financial problems can tear a family apart without the patience to stick together through the hard times. Remember that your situation can change in a second when least expected. Things will get better and you`ll have each other to lean on until then. When things seem bleakest, look at your children and remember that THAT is whats most important in life. Not the cool gadgets that the neighbors show off. I was raised poor. Just my mother and me. When i was in high school she worked full time and went to college full time. We had plenty food and a house. I didn't have the best clothes or toys but we were extremely close and that strong bond has stayed with us because we struggled together and recognized how special every little thing was. Looking back i realize how much she must have gone without in order to send me to private school back then and it makes me love her even more. Money can come later with hard work and a good support system at home, and while it is vital, family matters most of all. [/QUOTE]

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