My future MIL use to be so nice but as soon as we announced our engagement she has totally changed. She started telling me all the time that I am fat. One of the last times she did it I said I was leaving and she followed me around her house telling me I can't be mad at her because I am fat, and since its the truth I can't be mad. She was saying it for like 5 minutes while I grabbed all my stuff and got my dogs leashed up.
Then the next time I saw her was for my fiance's birthday. She brought up that I need to apologize for telling her that her cat was overweight I said no, and she freaked out. She started yelling at me in the middle of the restaurant that she would never accept me into her family,and that I ruined her sons life. She called me worthless, and the princess of trash. She even said our kids would be trash "just like their mother" My fiance was trying to calm her down and kept telling her to stop. She didn't stop! She started begging my fiance not to marry me. She said I was the biggest mistake of his life, that I am not good enough for him, hes going to dumb me soon because I am so terrible and worthless. She even said I was just using him to have someone take care of me.
We gave her several warnings about being nicer or being univited to the wedding, but she never was nicer she just kept calling me trash and many other things so we told her she can't come to the wedding.
His parents are divorced but his mother started calling his dad and now his dad is trying to guilt us into letting her come. He said there is no reason to ever tell a mother/mother in law that they can't come to the wedding, He keeps saying that we are totally crossing a line about her not coming. We even told him that if she apologizes and means it she can come to the wedding.
Are we totally out of line or is it okay under these circumstances to tell her she can't come unless she apologizes?
Thank You
Then the next time I saw her was for my fiance's birthday. She brought up that I need to apologize for telling her that her cat was overweight I said no, and she freaked out. She started yelling at me in the middle of the restaurant that she would never accept me into her family,and that I ruined her sons life. She called me worthless, and the princess of trash. She even said our kids would be trash "just like their mother" My fiance was trying to calm her down and kept telling her to stop. She didn't stop! She started begging my fiance not to marry me. She said I was the biggest mistake of his life, that I am not good enough for him, hes going to dumb me soon because I am so terrible and worthless. She even said I was just using him to have someone take care of me.
We gave her several warnings about being nicer or being univited to the wedding, but she never was nicer she just kept calling me trash and many other things so we told her she can't come to the wedding.
His parents are divorced but his mother started calling his dad and now his dad is trying to guilt us into letting her come. He said there is no reason to ever tell a mother/mother in law that they can't come to the wedding, He keeps saying that we are totally crossing a line about her not coming. We even told him that if she apologizes and means it she can come to the wedding.
Are we totally out of line or is it okay under these circumstances to tell her she can't come unless she apologizes?
Thank You