So i have had a tabby cat for 3 years. I got her when she was 2 and she is now 5. Her and I have lived by ourselves for the most part, she has rarely had to be around other cats, but the times that she has been around them, she has usually disliked them and taken that out on me by closing off completely and not being the affectionate, warm cat that i love.
I moved into a new apartment a month and a half ago with 2 friends from high school. One of my friends decided that she wanted a cat of her own, and adopted a 2 year old male cat. The two cats have been together for a week now. They have not fought physically, but my cat hisses at the new cat if he gets too close to her. For the most part though, the cats seem comfortable around each other. The problem is that my cat has not purred for me since my roommate brought her cat home.
I made it very clear when my roommate adopted this cat that if it didn't work out, she would need to find another alternative for him. Both girls knew going into this living situation that my cat would be living with us. Had I known my roommate intended to get a cat, i probably would not have moved in at all. I knew my cat would be upset with the new addition, but i did not think she would react by completely hating me.
My roommate is away right now, and i just got back from a 4 day trip myself. I went to cuddle my cat and she refused to purr and completely stiffened up. I know this is not because i was away, because i've returned from being away from her for 3 weeks and she greeted me just as warmly as ever.
I sent my roommate a message saying that if my cat doesn't get back to being herself in a week or two, then we need to figure out a different alternative. I don't think it is fair to me or my cat that her cat destroys our 3 year long bond. What do you guys think?
I moved into a new apartment a month and a half ago with 2 friends from high school. One of my friends decided that she wanted a cat of her own, and adopted a 2 year old male cat. The two cats have been together for a week now. They have not fought physically, but my cat hisses at the new cat if he gets too close to her. For the most part though, the cats seem comfortable around each other. The problem is that my cat has not purred for me since my roommate brought her cat home.
I made it very clear when my roommate adopted this cat that if it didn't work out, she would need to find another alternative for him. Both girls knew going into this living situation that my cat would be living with us. Had I known my roommate intended to get a cat, i probably would not have moved in at all. I knew my cat would be upset with the new addition, but i did not think she would react by completely hating me.
My roommate is away right now, and i just got back from a 4 day trip myself. I went to cuddle my cat and she refused to purr and completely stiffened up. I know this is not because i was away, because i've returned from being away from her for 3 weeks and she greeted me just as warmly as ever.
I sent my roommate a message saying that if my cat doesn't get back to being herself in a week or two, then we need to figure out a different alternative. I don't think it is fair to me or my cat that her cat destroys our 3 year long bond. What do you guys think?