Is this disrespectful and an indication of future infidelity, or is this just...

SoCalGal

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...guy talk? I came across something that my fiance had written to his friend - "We're in Koh Samui right now, it's like the Vegas of Thailand. There are so many chicks here just waiting to be pounced. There are like 50 year-old men walking around with 16 year old chicks. Makes me want to be single again... for an hour at least."
This is something he wrote just a couple months ago while we were on a trip together. We're engaged, and have been dating for about 4 years. What makes a comment like this even worse is that he's never in the mood for sex, and it used to be a big issue between us before I started taking Fluoxitine (which lessens your sex drive, so I don't really ask for it as much anymore). He's been on Propecia since he was 20 (he's in his early 30s now), and that might be part of the sex-drive problem. However, a comment like "there are chicks here just waiting to be pounded... wish I were single again... if even for an hour" makes me think that he does have a sex drive and has had one all along, just not for me. He is extremely affectionate with me and tells me he loves me all the time, he's just never been all that sexual with me. On average, we have sex about once a week, sometimes once every two weeks. I know I'm not bad looking, I get compliments from men all the time, and my guy friends always say that their friends ask about me when they meet me. But, I think that maybe my fiance has a Modonna/Whore syndrome or is just over me sexually? And maybe that happened as soon as we became serious? p.s. and trust me, I've tried the lingerie thing many times, and toys, etc. He used to get so upset that I'm basically not allowed to wear lingerie anymore, it puts too much pressure on him. I basically just want to know, do all guys talk like this but wouldn't really act on it if given the chance? Or if he went to Thailand with a few of his buddies, is there a good chance that he'd have sex with a prostitute or someone he met, no matter how happy he is with me, or how much he loves me? What do you think?
 
Totally talk in my opinion. He's not a really sexual person & he covers that up with his friends by saying things like that. I really believe I'm right about this. Let me tell you a small story. I met my husband online. He's a tattoo artist & I was already skeptical about meeting this cooler than cool tattoo artist that lived on the beach. You know. Anyway I almost didn't meet him in person because someone online asked him "what have you been up to" and he posted a comment back & said "nothing here but ink & pink". Uhh yeah. I was totally turned off. But you know what? He NEVER wants sex & totally has problems with it because of medications & also a performance issue. He has never had one night stands or casual sex either. ONLY relationships & all of them ended because of the lack of sex & intimacy. He talks SO much crap to other people. Like I asked for a Victoria's Secret gift card for Xmas to buy my favorite panties that I always get. He made a big production in front of his brother about my VS gift card (wink, wink) like I was gonna buy lingerie & do him. LOL! Total joke. I have bought lingerie & showed him & all I got was "that's pretty honey, good for you". Seriously!!! And it doesn't stop there. We just got married & he'll joke with the guys about how awesome our honeymoon was. WE DIDN'T EVEN HAVE SEX ON OUR HONEYMOON!! HELLO? It's a total coverup for insecurity with their manhood & sex. No guy wants their friends to think they suck at it or don't want it. I wonder how many guys do this. I should take a poll.
 

guineapig

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I'm not a man but I am guessing it is just guy talk. If it came down to it, would he really want to sleep with a Thai prostitute? No way!
 

chinadoll

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Yes, I think it's really disrespectful and that would make me question the type of guy that he is. Doesn't sound like a keeper to me. But I also think that it was "guy talk"- trying to impress the guys. But again, not my type of guy!!!
 
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