I've been Having Dreams about my Ex-Girlfriend?

[PhilConners]

It's been 8 years since she left me. She was my first everything. We broke up because of long distance, and I guess somewhere along the 3 years that we dated, she realized, earlier than I did; that we weren't meant to be together. I see this now. We we're on different paths, me an aspiring (starving) musician, and she a first rate Medical student in college. There's just no way I could compete with her career and the long distance. It took me 2 years to finally feel like I was over her. Anyway, we haven't spoken or seen each other in over 4 years.

I'm currently with a woman who is perfect for me, we've been together for over 3 years, and she's beautiful, caring, loving, giving, and loves me for who I am. The kind of girl you want to marry. But I've been having these random dreams about my ex. Sometimes we're back together in the dream, totally in love again, and other times we are broken up and she treats me like I meant nothing to her, and in those dreams I try and go about my business, but I can't stop going back to her or talking to her, or we'll end up in a crazy situation together where we hit it off again and fall back in love.

My Problem; I'm worried because after the dream, I wake up next to my girlfriend feeling so in love, or so torn up because of this other woman from years ago. I feel like I'll never love a woman like that again, and although I love my current girlfriend very much, It's just not the same feeling.

I want to marry my girlfriend, but these constant dreams over the last few months have really been screwing with my mind. It feels like she just broke my heart all over again. Can I have a meaningful, fruitful relationship like this? Why am I being haunted by my Ex?

 

[Unregistered]

I'm in the exact same boat. Me and my boyfriend of three years are talking of marrying soon, but I keep having dreams of my ex that broke up with me five years ago. It's heartbreaking, I feel like I'm cheating on my boyfriend every morning and it brings so much fear of committing to him. The only thing I keep thinking to myself, as should you, is that you are dreaming of the old her, and that time has passed and she is bound to be different now, and certainly not your dream girl anymore. Chances are, life was easy, fun, and carefree with her because you were both younger. Now, it doesn't seem as much fun with your current girlfriend only because you are older and have more responsibilities and life cannot be so carefree anymore. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.. even if the idea gives you a rush of toxic excitement.