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<blockquote data-quote="Carli" data-source="post: 2239435" data-attributes="member: 171342">I wrote a question on here earlier and this is a little more clearer. Thank you for your help. It honestly is greatly appreciatedMe and my boyfriend have been dating for ten months now and we began dating when we met at college in the fall. Things are GREAT at school. So much fun, love and passion, it feels young and fresh. June came, and my boyfriend had to go back home to Michigan. He hasn&#039;t been home for more than 5 days at Christmas so really since August when we left for school was the last time he was home for a while. At first it was good, we skyped almost everyday and talked on the phone, but then things started turning for the worse. I kept trying to contact him and he had no service or was at work and it was too difficult to talk. I felt like he was avoiding me. We would text, but they were always short, but they still felt good enough for me, nothing changed with that. I&quot;m flying out there in a week and half, a little less. I asked him what the problem was. I told him I was tired of chasing him and trying to contact him. I thought he could be cheating or wanting to move on. He said he hates the distance. Absolutely loathes it. And that communicating via technology aka skype phone computer, is soo hard for him. He says it makes it difficult for him because the computer doesn&#039;t do justice for seeing me ( it usually fades) and talking on the phone is hard cause he can&#039;t see me. He misses me greatly but it&#039;s so hard with technology. Our schedules are kinda opposite too, i work when he&#039;s free and when I&#039;m free, he&#039;s with his friends and has no service anywhere. He also said he wanted to leave his college life behind for the summer because he wants to focus on seeing his friends he hasn&#039;t seen in just about a year and have every waking moment with them. He says it&#039;s selfish and hates it, but can&#039;t change it. He was like I can&#039;t do the distance, I&#039;m tired of hurting you and making you cry because i can&#039;t talk. All in all he wanted to put a &quot;pause&quot; on the summer with us and continue in the fall. I was ohhh absolutely not. I gave him the choice of it&#039;s now or never. He chose not to give up. But he said his communication is not gonna change. So we agreed to atleast hearing each other&#039;s voice atleast once a day whether it&#039;s a voice mail or recording message, to always say a goodnight, whether it&#039;s a text or phone and to continue playing the &quot;i love you game&quot; which is where the first person to text and verbally say i love you gets a point.I don&#039;t know. I don&#039;t know. I&#039;m praying and hoping and wishing that things will be amazing when i see him in a week and a half. I hope they are. Something to re-kindle everything. He said he was even hesitant on me coming out because it would be the biggest tease for him only seeing me for a week and then go another month not seeing me. But we talked and then decided I&#039;m still flying out and he seemed excited when he told me all the things he wants to do.Help, please?</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Carli, post: 2239435, member: 171342"] I wrote a question on here earlier and this is a little more clearer. Thank you for your help. It honestly is greatly appreciated Me and my boyfriend have been dating for ten months now and we began dating when we met at college in the fall. Things are GREAT at school. So much fun, love and passion, it feels young and fresh. June came, and my boyfriend had to go back home to Michigan. He hasn't been home for more than 5 days at Christmas so really since August when we left for school was the last time he was home for a while. At first it was good, we skyped almost everyday and talked on the phone, but then things started turning for the worse. I kept trying to contact him and he had no service or was at work and it was too difficult to talk. I felt like he was avoiding me. We would text, but they were always short, but they still felt good enough for me, nothing changed with that. I"m flying out there in a week and half, a little less. I asked him what the problem was. I told him I was tired of chasing him and trying to contact him. I thought he could be cheating or wanting to move on. He said he hates the distance. Absolutely loathes it. And that communicating via technology aka skype phone computer, is soo hard for him. He says it makes it difficult for him because the computer doesn't do justice for seeing me ( it usually fades) and talking on the phone is hard cause he can't see me. He misses me greatly but it's so hard with technology. Our schedules are kinda opposite too, i work when he's free and when I'm free, he's with his friends and has no service anywhere. He also said he wanted to leave his college life behind for the summer because he wants to focus on seeing his friends he hasn't seen in just about a year and have every waking moment with them. He says it's selfish and hates it, but can't change it. He was like I can't do the distance, I'm tired of hurting you and making you cry because i can't talk. All in all he wanted to put a "pause" on the summer with us and continue in the fall. I was ohhh absolutely not. I gave him the choice of it's now or never. He chose not to give up. But he said his communication is not gonna change. So we agreed to atleast hearing each other's voice atleast once a day whether it's a voice mail or recording message, to always say a goodnight, whether it's a text or phone and to continue playing the "i love you game" which is where the first person to text and verbally say i love you gets a point. I don't know. I don't know. I'm praying and hoping and wishing that things will be amazing when i see him in a week and a half. I hope they are. Something to re-kindle everything. He said he was even hesitant on me coming out because it would be the biggest tease for him only seeing me for a week and then go another month not seeing me. But we talked and then decided I'm still flying out and he seemed excited when he told me all the things he wants to do. Help, please? [/QUOTE]

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