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Major major rant and vent (needed to let off some steam)...question at the very
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<blockquote data-quote="llllll1" data-source="post: 2700023" data-attributes="member: 593516"><p>bottom lol. Need that money bk? Heya,</p><p>Sorry for my family questions recently, i'm using yahoo answers until i get counselling (very soon) as my way of venting. I know there are blog sites out there e.t.c but yahoo is just the best, if you don't want to read you don't have to. Sorry for the rant.</p><p>The main story is how i get so much mental abuse and mind games from my family it's crazy and the fact that they are so in denial and deluded thinking they never do wrong just makes me want to snap recently. And I know what i'm about to write seems like nothing but it's this kind of stuff every single day and i'm always appreciative of advice, as i can't move out at the moment-no jobs around.</p><p>--</p><p>Ok so my parents have little money at the moment which they use me as their scapegoat for even though i spend next to nothing literally and it's my mum who spends it all on clothes and non food shopping e.t.c and my parents just completely shut me off whenever i stand up for my self which is beyond frustrating.</p><p>Anyway after getting underweight & really ill because of it and my parents not giving a dam even though i was really ill and mocking me like crazy and not caring in the slightest, and after begging my mum to get food and explaining how me eating nothing everyday was making me ill to her and she not doing anything i finally gave her my card.</p><p>I left a note (since i was sleeping in the day today as i was up all night setting up a fish tank) telling my mum that i desperately needed food and that she could take my card, i wrote down my pin and VERY CLEARLY wrote NOT to spend more than £30 as i don't have much on my card, i told her that several times.....she comes back in the evening and shows me the receipt and she's spent nearly £60!! Now please don't give me the "you're mum has brought you up so it;s nothing" speech, my mum has never given a dam about me and just does what the hell she wants..like my dad because they know i have no where to go and they can get away with it, i get verbally abused constantly and bombarded with constant mind games.</p><p>I confronted my mum about the spending on my card and she denied seeing the message....but you could not have possibly missed the message, she even tried to blame me for it she showed no sympathy and didn't even apologise, she was actually angry at me for it.</p><p>See the thing is no matter how clear i make things to my parents they just completely ignore me and do the opposite to provoke me and then act all dumb when i confront them about it or shrug it off, they have no empathy for me what so ever, when ever i have a problem they never want to know or when i confront them about how much they hurt me they blame me for it.</p><p>My dad constantly wants to start fights with me and if i say nothing he finds some way of getting to me i.e threatening to take something away, if i stand up for my self he accuses me of starting an argument & actually claims that him ignoring me is him not rising to it....at that point i'm just about to explode in my head because it's the total opposite of what he does, he always starts fights with me and i'm getting really ill mentally and physically because of it.</p><p>I know even thought my mum said she pays me back...which she doesn't it will be a nightmare trying to get that money from her.</p><p>Her reaction just majorly gets to me, she always acts so self-absorbed as she is beyond neglectful and because her and my dad are the same and she's close with my brother who is a clone of my dad she thinks she never does anything wrong.</p><p>My dad also constantly patronises and belittles me and makes me out to be really dumb. That fish tank i set up last night i put a note on it telling them not to touch it and not to make a comment on it because i know he will be all negative about it and mock me e.t.c and what did he do he went and made comments about it and mocked me. I am just so sick of everything, i no longer live it feels like i am in hell.</p><p>I have had the worst year of my life with them, my dad completely torn me down, destroyed my identity...and that took a lot.</p><p>Sorry for this major rant, i know it's more of a rant than a question and i wont post anything like this again.</p><p>I've ried every possible way of talking with my parents but they are set in denial and delusion and think they are good parents, but the reality is constant mental and emotional abuse, constant mind games i cannot ignore, verbal abuse 24/7, invalidation e.t.c</p><p>i am so angry at her, no matter how clear i make things to her she always does the opposite to press my buttons, i have to spell everything out for her and waste my life dealing with everything.</p><p>It;s just beyond frustrating. If I ask her something once i'm ignored, if i ask her several times she has a go at me for mithering, i am stuck.</p><p>I need this money back and i am so so worried she wont pay me back, i'm already low in money myself, how can i make sure she pays</p><p>..pays me back? And doesn't use it against me?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="llllll1, post: 2700023, member: 593516"] bottom lol. Need that money bk? Heya, Sorry for my family questions recently, i'm using yahoo answers until i get counselling (very soon) as my way of venting. I know there are blog sites out there e.t.c but yahoo is just the best, if you don't want to read you don't have to. Sorry for the rant. The main story is how i get so much mental abuse and mind games from my family it's crazy and the fact that they are so in denial and deluded thinking they never do wrong just makes me want to snap recently. And I know what i'm about to write seems like nothing but it's this kind of stuff every single day and i'm always appreciative of advice, as i can't move out at the moment-no jobs around. -- Ok so my parents have little money at the moment which they use me as their scapegoat for even though i spend next to nothing literally and it's my mum who spends it all on clothes and non food shopping e.t.c and my parents just completely shut me off whenever i stand up for my self which is beyond frustrating. Anyway after getting underweight & really ill because of it and my parents not giving a dam even though i was really ill and mocking me like crazy and not caring in the slightest, and after begging my mum to get food and explaining how me eating nothing everyday was making me ill to her and she not doing anything i finally gave her my card. I left a note (since i was sleeping in the day today as i was up all night setting up a fish tank) telling my mum that i desperately needed food and that she could take my card, i wrote down my pin and VERY CLEARLY wrote NOT to spend more than £30 as i don't have much on my card, i told her that several times.....she comes back in the evening and shows me the receipt and she's spent nearly £60!! Now please don't give me the "you're mum has brought you up so it;s nothing" speech, my mum has never given a dam about me and just does what the hell she wants..like my dad because they know i have no where to go and they can get away with it, i get verbally abused constantly and bombarded with constant mind games. I confronted my mum about the spending on my card and she denied seeing the message....but you could not have possibly missed the message, she even tried to blame me for it she showed no sympathy and didn't even apologise, she was actually angry at me for it. See the thing is no matter how clear i make things to my parents they just completely ignore me and do the opposite to provoke me and then act all dumb when i confront them about it or shrug it off, they have no empathy for me what so ever, when ever i have a problem they never want to know or when i confront them about how much they hurt me they blame me for it. My dad constantly wants to start fights with me and if i say nothing he finds some way of getting to me i.e threatening to take something away, if i stand up for my self he accuses me of starting an argument & actually claims that him ignoring me is him not rising to it....at that point i'm just about to explode in my head because it's the total opposite of what he does, he always starts fights with me and i'm getting really ill mentally and physically because of it. I know even thought my mum said she pays me back...which she doesn't it will be a nightmare trying to get that money from her. Her reaction just majorly gets to me, she always acts so self-absorbed as she is beyond neglectful and because her and my dad are the same and she's close with my brother who is a clone of my dad she thinks she never does anything wrong. My dad also constantly patronises and belittles me and makes me out to be really dumb. That fish tank i set up last night i put a note on it telling them not to touch it and not to make a comment on it because i know he will be all negative about it and mock me e.t.c and what did he do he went and made comments about it and mocked me. I am just so sick of everything, i no longer live it feels like i am in hell. I have had the worst year of my life with them, my dad completely torn me down, destroyed my identity...and that took a lot. Sorry for this major rant, i know it's more of a rant than a question and i wont post anything like this again. I've ried every possible way of talking with my parents but they are set in denial and delusion and think they are good parents, but the reality is constant mental and emotional abuse, constant mind games i cannot ignore, verbal abuse 24/7, invalidation e.t.c i am so angry at her, no matter how clear i make things to her she always does the opposite to press my buttons, i have to spell everything out for her and waste my life dealing with everything. It;s just beyond frustrating. If I ask her something once i'm ignored, if i ask her several times she has a go at me for mithering, i am stuck. I need this money back and i am so so worried she wont pay me back, i'm already low in money myself, how can i make sure she pays ..pays me back? And doesn't use it against me? [/QUOTE]
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