I come from what most would consider to be a 'modern' family, where some-most of the family on my dads side are quite conservative & wear scarf.
But there are some of us (including myself) who do not wear it, and it is respected that if you want to you can but if you do not its still okay. Where functions are in the same venue & mixed seating is aloud, sometimes couples sit together & others men will sit on the one side & women on the other but there is no partition or anything segregating the two sexes.
The last time I had went to a friends function, which was females only & at one stage a few men had walked in for a few minutes & had walked out. I had been wearing a sleeveless outfit to which one women had taken offense but nothing was said & it was left at that. (my thing was it was the first time I had ever seen this women, I am comfortable wearing what I was & people in my family knew what I was wearing & it was quite a hot summers evening- Johannesburg, South Africa)
Today had a family function (a sisters reception,which the boys side hosts) and had worn a sari which the top which was really reveling the back & was a backless halter. Nobody had taken offense & people in my family where telling me what a nice outfit it was & even how nice the back looked.
There is this one uncle that I have,who contradicts things & puts things in perspective to suit himself & says its Islam, some of the things I do not agree with, actually nost things he says. But I respect him as an older figure but not just his ideologies.
He had come up to tell me to cover up my back, my response to him was "sorry, but this is the way it came, I like it & judging by the compliments I have recieved everyone loves it too. It was my choice,along with my mom & sisters who loved the outfit & found nothing with it. But thank you for the concern'
My parents had put me into Private Anglic schools my entire life (which was a privlidge), and during primary school & some of my middle school career to extra mural muslim studies.
He sent his daughter to the same school & put her into Christian school but will never put her into a full Muslim school, he only preaches to what suits him, & he judges everyone else to his 'standards' (status & money & if you aint have the money you lower).
WHere I was brought up to have respect for everyone, across all boards,religions,thoughts & regarldess of money and status, your still a human being who has feelings too.
I do possess halter neck tops,bikini's,tank tops & that but I do not wear it every single weekend or anything & just mostly wear it overseas or on holiday but in moderation.
Was I so wrong to tell him off? Is my thinking of having respect for everyone despite material things a problem?? Is it a problem that I was sent to Private Schools my entire life & my university fee's paid up for and more? Was it my fault that my parents have saved 'trust fund' for me incase one day I might need it? Where if I work, working does not mean anything everyone does & to do hard work & never be afraid of it??Or am I just seen this in a whole wrong light?
But there are some of us (including myself) who do not wear it, and it is respected that if you want to you can but if you do not its still okay. Where functions are in the same venue & mixed seating is aloud, sometimes couples sit together & others men will sit on the one side & women on the other but there is no partition or anything segregating the two sexes.
The last time I had went to a friends function, which was females only & at one stage a few men had walked in for a few minutes & had walked out. I had been wearing a sleeveless outfit to which one women had taken offense but nothing was said & it was left at that. (my thing was it was the first time I had ever seen this women, I am comfortable wearing what I was & people in my family knew what I was wearing & it was quite a hot summers evening- Johannesburg, South Africa)
Today had a family function (a sisters reception,which the boys side hosts) and had worn a sari which the top which was really reveling the back & was a backless halter. Nobody had taken offense & people in my family where telling me what a nice outfit it was & even how nice the back looked.
There is this one uncle that I have,who contradicts things & puts things in perspective to suit himself & says its Islam, some of the things I do not agree with, actually nost things he says. But I respect him as an older figure but not just his ideologies.
He had come up to tell me to cover up my back, my response to him was "sorry, but this is the way it came, I like it & judging by the compliments I have recieved everyone loves it too. It was my choice,along with my mom & sisters who loved the outfit & found nothing with it. But thank you for the concern'
My parents had put me into Private Anglic schools my entire life (which was a privlidge), and during primary school & some of my middle school career to extra mural muslim studies.
He sent his daughter to the same school & put her into Christian school but will never put her into a full Muslim school, he only preaches to what suits him, & he judges everyone else to his 'standards' (status & money & if you aint have the money you lower).
WHere I was brought up to have respect for everyone, across all boards,religions,thoughts & regarldess of money and status, your still a human being who has feelings too.
I do possess halter neck tops,bikini's,tank tops & that but I do not wear it every single weekend or anything & just mostly wear it overseas or on holiday but in moderation.
Was I so wrong to tell him off? Is my thinking of having respect for everyone despite material things a problem?? Is it a problem that I was sent to Private Schools my entire life & my university fee's paid up for and more? Was it my fault that my parents have saved 'trust fund' for me incase one day I might need it? Where if I work, working does not mean anything everyone does & to do hard work & never be afraid of it??Or am I just seen this in a whole wrong light?