So..she's been w/ the guy for almost a year. I long knew he disliked all her friends (except me for a while) he constant tells her she's fat, crazy, worthless, unstable, and that she has no real friends and no one could love her (um...abusive!). He's told her he would like her more if she got into shape and didn't have kids, he's told her he's embarrassed to be seen out with her and her kids. Recently she admitted to me that he doesn't like me either and I'm a bad influence??...(big surprise: sarcasm) and that he threatens to "bash her face in"....speaking from experience I told her this is a TERRIBLE sign and that he means what he says. Low and behold he grabbed her by the throat this last Sunday and she showed me the bruise today. He even told her she's weak for staying with him after everything...and she says she thinks they both drive each other to these points. He publicly humiliates her on a regular basis, calls her an alcoholic (even though he drinks just as much if not more) My friend is no saint..she does drink in excess sometimes and she is sort of flaky and she did tell him she was seeing someone else to try and sabotage the relationship as a way out...which lead to the choking/throat grabbing...this relationship is TOXIC...she said she knows she's just afraid to be alone and she's afraid she wont' find anyone as good-looking....she said she knows these are absurd reasons to stay with someone but she feels stuck. They break up like every single week...and then one of them tries to hook the other one back. She is my best friend and I LOVE her sooo much. My fiance' and I have tried to be the best example of friendship and love for her but she's just stuck and in a cycle of hell...anyone with experience in this type of situation please give any advice. THANKS!