SunLovingGirl
New member
- May 26, 2011
- 0
- 0
- 0
For some time, my bf and myself have talked about going on a trip together out of country. My vision of this trip was that it would be a romantic adventure and some well-needed alone time together away from all the stresses that typically keep him from being able to focus on me. He surprised me with a ticket and trip planned out recently, but then mentioned this other person was coming along "to keep costs down." Considering that I'll be paying my way, this doesn't make sense to me. I feel like the most selfish, awful person. My heart dropped and I barely could keep from crying. He furiously told me that I should be excited and appreciative, which I told him I am... that I will have a good time, but that I need a bit of time to process this change in plan. And I have done that ... But am beginning to think this may be a strong sign that I should consider moving on.
Even though he is very kind and considerate in other ways, he does have a temper and can be very selfish. He also has no sex drive, no ability to be romantic and has to be doing something every minute that keeps him from interacting with me. We'll be in the same house a whole day and he may only say "hi" once, allow me to hug him once, and then get really bored. When I mentioned that I had kind of hoped we would be able to spend alone time on this trip, rather than sharing a room with other people, he looked at me with a blank stare. That's when I realized that he never thought once about having any romantic interactions for the whole trip! What normal warm-blooded guy in a fairly new relationship forgoes any chance for any sort of sexual/romantic interaction on an exotic trip? I feel torn ... Is this just one of those things that I need to learn to compromise on? Is it worth it?
Even though he is very kind and considerate in other ways, he does have a temper and can be very selfish. He also has no sex drive, no ability to be romantic and has to be doing something every minute that keeps him from interacting with me. We'll be in the same house a whole day and he may only say "hi" once, allow me to hug him once, and then get really bored. When I mentioned that I had kind of hoped we would be able to spend alone time on this trip, rather than sharing a room with other people, he looked at me with a blank stare. That's when I realized that he never thought once about having any romantic interactions for the whole trip! What normal warm-blooded guy in a fairly new relationship forgoes any chance for any sort of sexual/romantic interaction on an exotic trip? I feel torn ... Is this just one of those things that I need to learn to compromise on? Is it worth it?