My boyfriend seems to prefer gadgets to me?

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I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, things have been great. The only complaint I have is that whenever he buys something new he seems to lose interest in me and spends all his time doing stuff on his new laptop or new ipad.

Even if he comes over to my house he'll bring his ipad with him and spend all the time we're together downloading games or whatever else and barely speaking to me. I'm pretty much sat next to him not speaking and watching TV or something. I do realise these things can be addictive, I was interested in gadgets and video games etc when I was single but now I have someone I don't feel the need for these things any more, I'd rather put them aside and have a conversation with the man I love.

I'm trying to be patient but its really grating on me now, frankly I find it very ignorant of him to bring it to me house and play on it instead of spending time with me. He knows I don't like it but he makes a joke of it, tells me I'm jealous of his ipad, and its true I am.

I'd expect this from a teenage relationship but I'm 28 and he's 31. I guess some men never grow up. I know the novelty of his new ipad will wear off soon and he'll be back to normal just like he was when he got bored of the fancy new laptop but in the mean time I'm getting very frustrated. Why does he feel the need to keep spending money on these things? I wonder if its me, if I'm so boring that he needs material things to keep him entertained!

Am I reading into it too much or is it just a guy thing?

Thanks for reading.
 
If u guys dont live together he should b paying attention toU wen hes with u....but if ur living with a man and hes playing his game or watching tv or whatever most of the time that is a guy thing....my man hung out with me every weekend and all his attention was on me...during the week is wen hed b into his gadgets...now that we live together he plays the game while I cook and shower n stuff,but we still have times wen we talk n hang out
 
You've pretty much answered your own question.

To a certain extent it is a guy thing, but a) some women get sidelined by other things too and b) it's not an excuse to neglect a relationship, regardless of gender.

My personal guess is that if you're relationship is only six months old and he's like this, your best bet is to move on. Up to you whether you wish to give him a strong talking to first, but ultimatums don't usually end well. A fresh relationship should be full of fun and excitement. You two shouldn't be able to keep your hands off each other, or otherwise actively socialising.

Whether you are boring (from anyone's subjective point of view) or not is technically irrelevant. If you are comfortable with who you are and if he won't change, then you're not compatible.
 
Its normal, i do it to my gf all the time, its means he's relaxed around you which is good!
 
This is the way I see it..

You have been with your boyfriend for about 6 months now, things have been great. The only complaint I have is that whenever he buys something new he seems to lose interest in me and spends all his time mI've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, things have been great. The only complaint I have is that whenever he buys something new he seems to lose interest in me and spends all his time doing stuff on his new laptop or new ipad. Even if he comes over to my house he'll bring his ipad with him and spend all the time we're together downloading games or whatever else and barely speaking to me. I'm pretty much sat next to him not speaking and watching TV or something. I do realise these things can be addictive, I was interested in gadgets and video games etc when I was single but now I have someone I don't feel the need for these things any more, I'd rather put them aside and have a conversation withI've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now, things have been great. The only complaint I have is that whenever he buys something new he seems to lose interest in me and spends all his time doing stuff on his new laptop or new ipad. Even if he comes over to my house he'll bring his ipad with him and spend all the time we're together downloading games or whatever else and barely speaking to me. I'm pretty much sat next to him not speaking and watching TV or something. I do realise these things can be addictive, I was interested in gadgets and video games etc when I was single but now I have someone I don't feel the need for these things any more, I'd rather put them aside and have a conversation with the man I love. I'm trying to be patient but its really grating on me now, frankly I find it very ignorant of him to bring it to me house and play on it instead of spending time with me. He knows I don't like it but he makes a joke of it, tells me I'm jealous of his ipad, and its true I am. I'd expect this from a teenage relationship but I'm 28 and he's 31. I guess some men never grow up. I know the novelty of his new ipad will wear off soon and he'll be back to normal just like he was when he got bored of the fancy new laptop but in the mean time I'm getting very frustrated. Why does he feel the need to keep spending money on these things? I wonder if its me, if I'm so boring that he needs material things to keep him entertained! the man I love. I'm trying to be patient but its really grating on me now, frankly I find it very ignorant of him to bring it to me house and play on it instead of spending time with me. He knows I don't like it but he makes a joke of it, tells me I'm jealous of his ipad, and its true I am. I'd expect this from a teenage relationship but I'm 28 and he's 31. I guess some men never grow up. I know the novelty of his new ipad will wear off soon and he'll be back to normal just like he was when he got bored of the fancy new laptop but in the mean time I'm getting very frustrated. Why does he feel the need to keep spending money on these things? I wonder if its me, if I'm so boring that he needs material things to keep him entertained! en never grow up. I know the novelty of his new ipad will wear off soon and he'll be back to normal just like he was when he got bored of the fancy new laptop but in the mean time I'm getting very frustrated. Why does he feel the need to keep spending money on these things? I wonder if its me, if I'm so boring that he needs material things to keep him entertained! ? I wonder if its me, if I'm so boring that he needs material things to keep him entertained!

Good Luck
 
Don't worry, it's not you. I've had friends who are supposed to be over to see me but they just live on facebook. One just sat in my living room looking at facebook the whole time, barely registering that I was there. It's the height of rudeness and selfishness. Another time, I was supposed to meet with some friends in a pub, and three of them had brought their Nintendo DS and linked up for a game of some babyish crap, while me and two of their girlfriends just sat there, looking awkwardly at each other, asking ourselves, 'how old are they?' and who plays the Nintendo DS in the pub?'

It's very sad, and nowadays I would mock them and people like your boyfriend, who is 31 - not because they are still playing with toys, but really because they're adults and should know when to put their toys away and engage in face-to-face interaction. You need to confront him and telling him to grow up, be social or you'll find someone who isn't plugged in to the Matrix.

These people need to grow up.

Skylinez - that was a good example of a strawman argument.
 
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